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I hope I don’t get dragged for this too.
First of all, different men ultimately want different things from a woman, so don’t ever feel the need to be a one-size-fits-all for men. You will just be stressing yourself.
Secondly, a woman who depends completely on her husband financially, is not a liability insofar as she is providing sufficient value elsewhere.
Finances are not the only substance marriage is made of and I think too much of a deal is made of it than should be.
There are other areas where a woman provides value to her man that trump financial contributions. Some of them are: spiritual value, homeliness, good parenting, good sex, emotional and mental support, and even career support.
If she is providing sufficient value in these areas, financial support should be negligible, especially if she’s not of the means.
Thirdly, the concept of “independent woman” is a facade to me, coz nobody in a union should be independent- man or woman. Coupling is all about co-dependence and interdependence.
I traditionally believe that a man should provide for protect his woman primarily, regardless of her means. But I also acknowledge that there are situations where the woman may be of better means and the man is unfortunate financially.
In circumstances like this, the parties must take extra care to make sure that they don’t allow pride to creep in, causing them to sabotage their relationship.
I want to wrap this up, so I’ll conclude by saying, the reason some of these issues arise is because people don’t learn to love each other perfectly.
If couples learn to love each other right, then the things that sprout animosity amongst couples would not exist.
Love is patient, kind, humble, not jealous, not resentful, doesn’t keep records of wrongdoing, it corrects in love, respectful, supportive, etc.
Whether a woman is completely financially dependent on her man or she is financially sufficient by herself, should not define the set up in the union.
Just love, support and honor each other the right way and none of these worries would rear their heads.
❤️Princess 💙✨@AdelekeFunmi18
If a woman depend solely on her husband for financial assistance, She is a liability right? But if a man marries an independent woman, some men become so insecure and tag her prideful. So now I just want to ask, what do men really want?? You want us to work or not?
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