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Today only *no paywall* for my @TheFP advice column.
This one's for all the single ladies.
Enjoy!
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Abigail Shrier
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Abigail Shrier
@AbigailShrier
Senior Fellow @ManhattanInst ║ Columnist @thefp ║ NYT Bestselling Author ║ https://t.co/tRlHtt2jQi ║ Tips: [email protected]
Los Angeles, CA Katılım Aralık 2011
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This week, @AbigailShrier writes to a concerned wife who trusts her husband but has allowed doubt to creep in after she received an email from his ex-partner.
Read Abigail’s full reply: thefp.com/p/tough-love-a…
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“Boys from liberal families now show higher anxiety than girls from conservative families.”
That surprising reversal — even though girls generally report more anxiety — comes from Abigail Shrier on Joe Rogan.
The gap isn’t just biology. It’s shaped by environment.
Conservative families more often practice authoritative parenting: warm, deeply involved parents who set clear rules and guardrails without being cold or authoritarian. They don’t hand every decision to the child or outsource authority to experts.
Decades of replicated studies, dating back to Diana Baumrind’s work in the 1960s, show these kids consistently end up happier, more resilient, and mentally healthier. They feel the people who love them most are calmly in charge.
Kids intuitively know they’re not ready to steer their own lives. When parents pull back too much, anxiety rushes into the open-ended void. Structure isn’t restriction — it’s the quiet safety net that actually frees them to grow without constant overwhelm.
With youth mental health resources at record levels yet outcomes still declining, this pattern quietly challenges how we’ve been approaching parenting and childhood.
What’s your real-world experience: does loving parental structure with clear guardrails feel more like freedom… or something else?
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Golly what if someone named @AbigailShrier wrote a book about this and called it Bad Therapy
Leah Libresco Sargeant@LeahLibresco
"The therapy seemed to make the kids worse. Immediately after the intervention, the therapy group had worse relationships with their parents and increases in depression and anxiety." theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/…
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@bariweiss @AbigailShrier @TheFP I absolutely 100% agree. Best advice column I’m ever read. And consistently so. @AbigailShrier is superb at this!!
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My dear friend @AbigailShrier is writing the best advice column in the world. It's in @TheFP every week.
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Thank you, Professor George!
Robert P. George@McCormickProf
@charlesmurray @AbigailShrier Totally agree, Charles. We've never had an "advice columnist" remotely like Abigail. Her wisdom and discernment are extraordinary. The column you cite is an excellent example. The more widely she is read and heeded the better!
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@charlesmurray I'm so honored to have you as a Tough Love reader.
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I've long admired @AbigailShrier's work, but her new advice column on Free Press is next level. I read the letter she's responding to, ask myself how I would answer it, and her answer is routinely an order of magnitude better than mine would have been. This one, for example. thefp.com/p/tough-love-a…
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@stellaomalley3 Congratulations, friend! Such wonderful news!! ❤️
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I was having a crap day and then just got news that my PhD has been accepted! I’m so thrilled (although it’s hard to believe)
So now I’m Dr O’Malley and I can finally say “I’m a doctor and I want my sausages” 😁😁😁
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@AbigailShrier Thank you Abigail! You've done so much to help kids too!
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Two years ago, almost 0 schools were interested in even considering going phone free.
Now, whole school systems are phone free. The rest are scrambling to get on board
We owe @JonHaidt a tremendous debt of gratitude.
What he achieved - this quickly - is almost unimaginable.
Jonathan Haidt@JonHaidt
The Anxious Generation was published two years ago today, in a very different world. Back then, the most common objection I got was resignation: "The train has left the station." "You can't put toothpaste back in the tube." "It's how the kids connect today." Today, the world looks very different. It turns out that if our kids were all on a train and we learned it was heading toward a collapsed bridge, we'd find a way to stop it and bring them safely back to the station. That’s what’s happening now. After the historic verdicts in Los Angeles and New Mexico, today is a great day to reflect on the capacity of people in democratic societies to take action, even when opposing some of the most powerful corporations in history. We're getting access to the courts. We're getting phone-free schools. We're seeing whole neighborhoods letting kids out to play, unsupervised, which is what we older folk all remember as the best part of childhood. So I want to recognize: --The mothers (and, right behind them, fathers) who rose up by the millions and powered the movement. --The farsighted governors and legislators in red states and blue states who have been innovating on policy solutions. --The leaders of a dozen of nations, who are raising the age to 16 for opening social media accounts (with a special shoutout to Australia, for going first). --The teachers and school administrators who had their classrooms disrupted for 15 years, and who are now eager to think through new solutions as screens have taken over and obstructed learning. --The grassroots organizations who have been dedicating their efforts to advocate for all of the above in their local communities. --The millions of members of Gen Z who have been rising up, demanding agency over how they spend their lives in the digital era, and finding better ways to connect in real life. And one final group: the survivor parents--the ones you saw in those pictures of people embracing on the front steps of the LA courthouse. I have met many over the years. I am in awe of their courage and tenacity, their willingness to tell their stories of loss, over and over again, to different audiences, in the hope that no other parent would have to endure what they have endured. At long last, juries and legislatures are hearing you, and are acting. Together, we are calling the train back to the station. Together, we are rolling back the phone based childhood and reclaiming life in the real world. The work continues. If you’re not already involved, join us: anxiousgeneration.com/join
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This week, @AbigailShrier writes to an almost 30-year-old reader who never wanted kids, but wonders if she should.
Read Abigail’s full reply at the link in our bio or at bit.ly/4qSKx4W.
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If you aren't reading @AbigailShrier 's weekly Tough Love column in @TheFP, you are denying yourself one of life's delicious pleasures.
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Abigail’s work has been the most consistent white pill over the years as culture seems to get more rotted.
Jackie Chea ⚖️@Fair_and_Biased
.@AbigailShrier asks Dennis about the worldview of Tucker & Candace: “So dark…it’s so damning of America…What’s the antidote? What do we do?” @DennisPrager answers: “The antidote is courage. People have to come out and say, ‘They’re advocating bad, indeed evil ideas.’”
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.@AbigailShrier asks Dennis about the worldview of Tucker & Candace:
“So dark…it’s so damning of America…What’s the antidote? What do we do?”
@DennisPrager answers:
“The antidote is courage.
People have to come out and say, ‘They’re advocating bad, indeed evil ideas.’”
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After a catastrophic fall left him paralyzed from the shoulders down, @DennisPrager says he never asked “Why me?”
He reflects on his long-standing philosophy of happiness—which encourages gratitude even in the most challenging circumstances.
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.@DennisPrager on the unhealthy rise of anti-Jewish conspiracy theories on the right, often framed as opposition to “Israel-first” policies:
“If anybody is ‘Jew-first’ or ‘Israel-first,’ it's [Tucker Carlson] and Candace Owens. They're the first people they blame for whatever happens—including Charlie Kirk's murder for example.”
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"After years together, he now effectively asks you to subsidize his dithering with your fertility.
I rarely use this word, but it seems appropriate here: This is abuse."
@AbigailShrier strikes again! Best advice column you'll ever read @TheFP.
Tough Love: I Want Kids. My Boyfriend Says He’s Not Ready. thefp.com/p/tough-love-i…
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Tough Love: I Want Kids. My Boyfriend Says He’s Not Ready.
What to do? @AbigailShrier brings the heat
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