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@CircadianCrystl convos about bad ppl can be hard w trauma + neurodivergency. “I share, you share” is typical communication for me. the info I had was just in a way different category. I didn’t know, the trauma didn’t feel special. was trying to connect & didn’t expect it to be so unusual to hear

@CircadianCrystl If it wasn’t for this person expressing more care/concern for who I was as a child than I ever did, I’d never have reapproached my trauma, or sat with the part of myself I’d always denied the sympathy to, for survival. Looking at what happened head on and FEELING was needed.

What motivates people with BPD to be quick to trauma-dump with people people they hardly know even though they know it's socially inappropriate? Not trying to ask this in a negative way. Just wondering

@Aqua04106760 @SadieLiath I admire your patience.

@SadieLiath I’m not posting these comments to try and hurt you, I’m hoping maybe there’s a chance you can see the harm you’re causing the trans community and grow from it. I understand why you’d be defensive in this situation honestly, but it doesn’t mean you haven’t done damage

crazy mixed feelings from having the type of abuse i originally experienced repeated a thousand times over by a crowd desperately trying silence me for saying that kind of abuse even exists

@FishleyMackerel @SavvySage_321 “She’s back and she’s blue” “These colors don’t run” “Back the blue” “These colors don’t run” this seems like blatant back and forth dog whistling to me 😭

@SavvySage_321 She made some racist remarks on the lines of "black trans masc people shouldn't complain because their blackness helps them pass better" but those posts were back in November 2025 and have been deleted This is one of her recent examples of racism

okay i don't know why people were calling her racist but holy shit *this* is her response???

@xMoiraFox Yesss this one is it

include trans people because its design explicitly includes trans people. Some will dichotomize this observation into meaning "man/woman genders have no meaning or validity" but actually what I want here is a definition of gender that is not gifted to cis people as birth right.

K I'm gonna say this one last time, following along: Who defined the (sex/gender) binary? Cis people Who was included in that binary? Cis people? Who was that binary used to oppress? Non-cis people. The binary is imposed onto non-cis people as part of systemic oppression.

@stealth_riot sorry I lied, one more thing. if anything will lengthen waiting lists for truly dysphoric people, its people without it trying for a false diagnosis so they can have access to these hormones/surgeries. we can’t know who to prioritize if we gatekeep so heavily people “sneak” in.

@stealth_riot Anyway rant over, my main point it that it just isn’t fair, truly equal, or healthy, to dictate to others out of fear. people still reserve the right to full & complete bodily autonomy, even if we don’t like the cosmetic choices they make.

Do you need dysphoria to identify as trans? No. Should you have dysphoria to medically transition and permanently alter your secondary sex characteristics? Yes. Everyone is allowed theirchoices for their bodies, but these detransitioners keep saying they didn’t have dysphoria

@Adwin1080524 @meggriffinliker @ch4lcos0ma we can’t do what they’re doing to point out their hypocrisy or to prove a point bc that’s exactly what they want. they are abusers and manipulators, looking to trigger reactive-abuse so they can woe is me and harm us further. Most of us dont want to stoop to that level anyway.

@Adwin1080524 @meggriffinliker @ch4lcos0ma can’t. in-community they’ve created a false power differential. If we give them what we’re getting, it just fuels the perpetual victim narrative they’re upholding, and gives them the ammunition they’re looking for to vilify us. The lose/lose situation ftms are in is intentional.

the Blue Girl thing is symptomatic of the fact that queer people don't think of trans men or transmasculine people as trans in any meaningful way. passing trans men are cís men and non passing trans men are women who think they're men, or they just don't exist.

@eebendeeben @dracsgaycuz Oh brother Are you an insufferable cunt when people say “anti transmasculinity” too? You just want to pretend trans men don’t experience transphobia.

@dracsgaycuz you mean transphobia? “androphobia” isn’t a real axis of oppression offline, so “transandrophobia” doesn’t exist either… or are you one of those people who’s salty that trans women have a word to describe the unique oppression they face for being trans and a woman?

@chemtrailwizard oh Jesus fucking Christ as if being trans on its own isn’t enough of a teacher? 😑

evergreen

@4690L @FreedomRoader false. bean soup. “please center me at all times!” touch grass.

Trans men really just hate trans women.