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Why women wait to report: a coworker once put his hand up the back of my blouse at a work happy hour and touched my bare skin. Later I found out he did similar things to 3 other women that night. None of us wanted to report him. HR had a bad reputation. And women know what often happens when you come forward: you’re the problem. You’re “difficult.” Maybe you “misread it.” Maybe you “encouraged it.” HR is there to protect the company - not employees. Then we found out he was applying to manage a department with several women. That changed everything. We talked and agreed we could not let women end up reporting to him without HR knowing what he had done. So we went. If he had not been up for that promotion, we probably wouldn't have. That is how hard it is to come forward. People come forward when they feel safe enough, or when they believe staying silent could let someone else get hurt.
I read a study that said they asked like 2600 men aged 18-34 in the US and Canada if they used any tactics (intimidation, isolation, inebriation) in order to have non consensual sex with women and 95% of them did and were successful using these tactics about 65% of the time
When someone says “I love you” but Dostoevsky said: “I dreamed of you before I ever met you, and when I finally did, it was as if I had known you all my life”
are you full of love because you’re full of grief, or full of grief because you’re full of love