@Lafawa2 You're probably thinking of the first chapter of Camille Paglia's "Sexual Personae".
But pretty sure there's other psychoanalysts talking about this, so it's not really a "feminist talking point" per se.
Anyone remember that feminist who argued that because boys stand when they pee they have an early headstart on questions of physics than girls who sit? I've thought about that so many times peeing that I'm pretty sure I've earned my PHD in theoretical physics. Yes I do aim girls.