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Why does helping a random stranger online sometimes feel like you've just unlocked a massive moral high score… yet helping your actual family or close friends often feels like unpaid emotional labor you never signed up for?
A while back, one of my friends wanted to launch this philanthropy project. He planned to give money to people in need and help the less fortunate, but he was camera-shy, so he asked a few of us(his close friends) to basically be the public faces of the movement.
But here's the thing: right there among us were people struggling hard. One friend was behind on rent, another couldn't even restock basic food at home, and someone else was stuck with a barely functional phone. I wasn't trying to sound entitled, but come on! how do you ask me to go online publicly giving away money to strangers when I'm grinding just to keep my own life together?
I got really upset, though I kept it to myself at the time. Eventually, I quietly stepped away from the whole thing. But even now, thinking back, it still hurts that he could see and care so much about strangers who needed help… yet somehow overlook (or dodge) the very real struggles of the people closest to him, including family and friends who were literally asking for basic support.
That contrast still stings.
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