@DLJX27 this was equal-part eloquent and illuminating 😌 negotiating and delimiting boundaries with an anon agent uninterested in honouring them in the first place is a negative sum game fr
You were right about your boundaries.
But you over-participated in defending them.
Boundaries are strongest when:
Stated once
Not justified
Not litigated
Asymmetry from the start: anonymous requester to recipient.
Low-investment probe: no self-disclosure & social risk.
Implicit entitlement test: “Are you open?” rather than “Would you like to talk?”
