Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨@GirlsChase
This is actually a pretty good description of (some) things that will get girls chasing you.
(While you generally don’t want to listen to female dating advice for men, a woman simply DESCRIBING what men have done with her that worked can be very informative.)
In this case, the guy was using:
✅ Confident, self-possessed body language. She doesn’t say it, but I guarantee you he had great posture, moved slowly and deliberately but smoothly, and took up space. Doubtless had excellent eye contact.
✅ At some point (ONCE he had her INVESTED enough) he asked her if she thought he was ‘hot’. This was deep in the second date, probably after some good bonding or connection so she doesn’t want to burst the bubble by saying something other than ‘yes’. What this did was trigger a psychological concept called COMMITMENT-CONSISTENCY where, once someone has verbally agreed to something, that person then feels compelled to act in-line with it, and even reorients his or her views to match what was said. (You can read about this in Robert Cialdini’s book “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”, where he has a ton more studies + examples.)
✅ Once he had her out the third time, he could tell she wasn’t into him enough yet, but was invested enough to have come out multiple times, so he just hung back and gave her space to chase. What happens when she chases? Well, that is simple enough: she starts to like you more (then more!).
(Also, you might think his dogged follow up of her was ‘chasing’, especially if you are the type who only texts a girl once or twice then quits if she isn’t all about it… however: there is a right way and a wrong way to follow up doggedly. The fact that this guy got another date and she started chasing him tells you he did it the right way. The right way is ‘persistence’, rather than ‘pursuit’.)
A lot of guys now don’t use (or know) game at all… they’re just totally winging it on “does she instantly feel me or not?”
You may not believe it until you try it for yourself, but yeah, there is a reason men have been doing this stuff with women since Ovid’s time and before… probably since long before recorded history.
If you want her to CHASE, you need to get her invested enough to be willing to — then, after that, you must create the SPACE for her to chase you in!