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“He was grateful because I was living my life.”

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Women in relationships with women consistently report higher relationship satisfaction, better communication, higher sexual satisfaction, and higher orgasm rates than women with men. Maybe feeling mutually desired actually matters. Crazy concept.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok LMAO

This is such a great argument against marriage. As a 21 year old, why should I get married young knowing my potential husband will want to trade me in for a “newer model” in a couple years when I inevitably age?

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Exactly. You can’t see how feeling attraction or the possibility of developing feelings for someone else is enough to leave your partner. I do. Because to me, staying while feeling that shift would already be betrayal.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Why would you leave your partner over someone you didn’t want to be romantic with? Makes no sense

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok ‘Shitty person and insecure’ because I refuse to settle for a man that desires much younger women while married to me? Right, mhm. Funny how you’re the one resorting to insults, not me, the ‘shitty person’.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok No you’re just a shitty person and insecure

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok The studies literally don’t agree with you. Women tend to rate people closer to their own age as most attractive. Cope.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Lesbians will still be attracted to woman younger than you because they are hotter. Cope

@BroCenter1 @DecayingWest @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok What other reason would I have to believe this? I grew up dreaming of a loving and passionate relationship with a man. Unfortunately, men keep telling or showing me that my dream is simply impossible.

@BroCenter1 @DecayingWest @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Because women/lesbians are less likely to settle. Men are okay with staying in relationships with people they don’t love or desire because it gives them maids and free sex.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok You’re genuinely stupid. Women can reproduce without having male partners. Ever heard of sperm banks?

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Yes good thing you will never reproduce

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Also, I can date women who remain attracted to people around their own age instead of settling for a dynamic that makes me unhappy. I’m not obligated to accept something that damages my self-esteem just because men insist it’s biology instead of questioning why they normalize it.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok You’re writing essays arguing against a point I never made. I never demanded to be “the hottest woman alive forever.” I said I don’t want a relationship where my partner fundamentally desires younger women more and just suppresses it. You’re free to accept that. I’m free not to.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Developing feelings once, ending the relationship, and not pursuing the person is not the same as spending decades “managing” stronger attraction to other women. I never even fully let myself engage emotionally with the guy and never wanted to sleep with him. Be serious.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Yet you did the same thing 🤡

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok “Women in relationships shouldn’t talk to men” is genuinely unhinged. I noticed feelings developing and ended the relationship before anything happened. Meanwhile your entire argument is men lust after younger women forever and wives should accept it. Fascinating morality system.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Emotionally cheating is a thing and you did it. You should not be talking to other men while in a relationships. You’re a shitty person. Cope.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Because human beings form friendships? What kind of question is that? I noticed feelings developing unintentionally and immediately ended my relationship instead of acting on them. That is literally the opposite of cheating.

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Why are you emotionally connecting with other men while in a relationship? You cheated emotionally on your partner. Cope

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok There it is. The second a woman says she wants to feel desired by her partner, you immediately reduce her to looks anyway. I already explained I know I have much more to offer than looks, which is exactly why I won’t settle for a relationship dynamic that makes me unhappy. 🤷‍♀️

biology isn’t negotiable: men are wired to find peak youth & fertility most sexually attractive. Always have been. Committed husbands don’t “desire them over” their wives — they build families anyway. You apparently have nothing else to offer besides looks which is why you are insecure

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok You keep explaining your position like I haven’t already understood it and agreed?? I understand it perfectly. I just think “my husband is more sexually attracted to younger women and suppresses it daily” sounds like a fucking miserable relationship dynamic for me personally.

Mutual desire is great, but it doesn’t require pretending biology stops existing. Men are wired to find peak-fertility women (20s) the most visually/sexually attractive—that’s evolutionary fact, not a personal failing. Commitment = choosing YOU as the full package every day anyway. Looks are one factor, not the only one. Wanting a relationship where your husband never notices that is the real cope. Reality > feelings.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok That is literally what I have said. Yes. If every men is like that, then I don’t want them. Good thing I’m bi, right?

@catarinatroufa @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok Then you should never be in a relationship with a man. You should become a lesbian,

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok do that, then I’ll choose to not date or marry them. I value feeling desired. I value myself and my dignity. Do I have more to give? Absolutely. But someone like that doesn’t deserve my best. I also wouldn’t do that to a partner so I won’t accept it either.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok “I don’t lust over other women that aren’t my wife.” I never said it means they value or love their wives less. All I said was I personally don’t want a relationship where my partner feels stronger sexual attraction toward much younger women and just “manages” it. If men can’t-

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok And that’s exactly the kind of relationship dynamic I personally don’t want. You’re free to see commitment as choosing one person while internally desiring others more. I personally want mutual desire to be part of the relationship too. Glad you finally admit it and understand.👍

Most men do the same every day. Visual/sexual attraction to peak fertility (younger women) is hardwired biology, not a “fixation” or choice. It doesn’t mean we love or value our wives any less — commitment is a daily decision, not a feeling. Glad we’re agreeing on the difference. 👍

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok I'd rather not be in a relationship with a man that will be having that stronger sexual attraction towards younger women because I value feeling desired by my partner. You do you though.

@DecayingWest @BroCenter1 @AConcernedPare2 @imheretolurk13 @grok That's literally my point. Developing feelings for a person through emotional connection and ending a relationship is not the same thing as staying with your partner while consistently feeling stronger sexual attraction toward much younger people and “mastering” it internally.