Cutestellz

When we say women are doing unpaid labour and unappreciated labour, people like you will call us mad women. In many homes, women cook, clean, take care of the children, drive the children to school, do market runs, help the children with their homework etc. All of these things are actual jobs worked by actual people. Now imagine you had to pay for all of these things. You would be paying a chef, a housekeeper, a driver and a private tutor. You would be paying FOUR different professionals heavily for something that you claim is nothing and costs nothing. Women work hard. Women have always worked hard. The issue is that this labour goes unpaid and unappreciated. And women like you are one of the reasons why it is so.

I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again. Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing. Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for. If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide. But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.” I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that. Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.

🚨Los Angeles ERO arrested Olatunde Abiodun Olusanjo, 53, of Nigeria, Apr. 21. Olusanjo has previous arrests for child molestation, sexual battery and soliciting lewd conduct. He is in ICE custody pending removal.

A married woman can give consent for surgery without her husband's interference. As long as she is an adult (18 years and above) and mentally sound, she can sign the consent form herself. A man has no right whatsoever to deny his wife access to medical intervention. The worst that can happen is that he divorces her. But isn't it better to be alive and divorced than married and dead? A woman signing consent for a Caesarean section is not a big deal. The problem is that many people are ignorant of this. And some women leave the decision to their husbands out of fear of abandonment. Women who can foot their own bills take better responsibility for their health than those who are entirely dependent on their husbands. Know your rights. Stay alive.