darkman

I used to think I’d be open to a coffee date as a first date but after this discourse I’ve dug my heels in and it’s a no. It makes no sense to me. What time are we going? What day of the week? Why can’t we just talk on the phone? What if I don’t want coffee because I really can’t have more than half caff and I have that first thing in the morning? Coffee makes me anxious. Opting into being even more anxious on a first date makes no sense. All I’m seeing is guarded men trying to “get something” before committing to a date, while claiming it’s about getting to know each other. It’s not. You’re not going to get to know me over coffee. Coffee is actually pretty intimate to me. I would only have extra coffee with someone I trust. I don’t think dinner has to be expensive but eating with someone makes way more sense to me. There’s more structure, there’s a beginning, middle, and end. Coffee is… the few minutes it takes you to drink it and then ?? Structurally I don’t understand. And I don’t want to go out with someone who is hedging his bets. Do you want to date me or not? Do you want me to feel comfortable? I would be more comfortable eating something. Doesn’t have to be fancy, but I want to sit down and eat. We can go for a walk later but I’m not going for a walk with someone I don’t know, he might drag me into the bushes

I wish I could hear Yeezus for the first time again

Kai Havertz with a miss worth 0.85(xG).