Dr. David Burkus

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Many new employees come with wild ideas. Hear out them out. Correct kindly. Keep the door open. The next idea might be the one that matters. Save this for your next 1-on-1.

Most companies stop problems by adding more rules. Toyota stops problems by trusting the people closest to them. On any Toyota assembly line, a single worker can pull the andon cord and halt the entire production line — no manager required, no permission needed. The line doesn't restart until the problem is solved. That sounds like a recipe for chaos. It's actually a recipe for quality. Because when people own the outcome — not just follow instructions — they notice things no policy manual ever could. Toyota didn't build one of the most efficient production systems in the world by controlling their employees more tightly. They built it by trusting them more deeply. The difference between a workforce that complies and one that cares often comes down to one question: do they have the power to act on what they see? Share this with a leader who confuses oversight with excellence.

Delta Airlines is paying out $1.3 billion to employees. Most companies want employees to think like owners. But they won't pay them like owners. Delta Airlines has paid out profit sharing every February since 2007 — this year, an average of four weeks' salary per employee. That's not a perk. That's a signal. It tells every frontline worker that when customers are happy and the company wins, they win too. Alignment isn't built through mission statements. It's built through the paycheck. What's one way your company makes employees feel invested in the outcome? Drop it in the comments.

"You need to be more of a team player." That's not feedback. That's a wish. High performers are wired for clear expectations. They want the target. They want to know exactly how they'll be measured—so they can exceed it. That same wiring works in your favor when coaching behavior. Don't say "be more collaborative." Say "in team meetings, let others finish before you respond." Don't say "improve your communication." Say "share information with the team early, not just at the handoff." Specific. Observable. Coachable. That's not criticism—it's a standard. And high performers respond to standards. And if they don't? That's useful information too. Because someone who won't meet a clear, reasonable expectation probably wasn't the high performer you thought they were. Share this with a leader who's been avoiding a hard conversation.

Conflict isn't the enemy of great teamwork. The wrong kind of conflict is. Research distinguishes between task conflict—debating ideas, assumptions, and approaches—and personal conflict, which is really just disrespect with a professional veneer. Task conflict makes teams better. Personal conflict quietly destroys them. The best leaders don't eliminate tension. They channel it. They tell their teams explicitly: push back on the idea, never on the person. Be passionate about the work. Be respectful of the people doing it. That's not a soft distinction. It's the whole game. Because a team that can disagree well will always outthink a team that can't. Save this if you lead a team that needs to have harder conversations. #Leadership #Teamwork

"That's just how they are. It's the price of excellence." Most leaders have said some version of this about a difficult high performer. And it feels reasonable—until you actually look at what that person is costing you. Not in HR headaches or morale surveys. In output. From everyone around them. Because almost no one works alone. Which means a brilliant collaborator makes their teammates better. And a difficult one—no matter how talented—quietly makes everyone else worse. That's not a personality issue. That's a performance issue. The leaders who get this stop asking "how do we keep them happy?" and start asking "what is this actually costing the team?" Different question. Very different answer. Share this with someone who's been making excuses for the wrong person.

There aren't two scorecards at work—one for results, one for how you treat people. There's one. Research on complex teamwork keeps pointing to the same finding: as the work gets harder, interpersonal skills matter more than technical ones. And social ability predicts team performance better than raw intelligence. That reframes everything. It means your "high performer" who leaves a trail of dysfunction isn't actually a high performer. It means hiring for culture fit isn't soft—it's strategic. It means performance is never just about what someone produces alone. In the modern workplace, almost nothing gets done in a vacuum. So the real question isn't "what can this person do?" It's "what do they make possible for everyone around them?" Share this with a leader who needs to hear it.

Your team's real standard only becomes visible when someone can't meet it. That's not a flaw in the system. That's the system working exactly as designed. The uncomfortable truth: most teams don't fully align around expectations until they're forced to confront a gap. And how you handle that gap tells your team everything—about what you value, what you'll tolerate, and whether results and relationships can coexist. They can. But only if you're intentional about it. Save this if you lead a team. The moment is coming.

Imagine a room full of leaders in suits of armor. Clanking around. Bumping into each other. All gassed up on information and ready to defend their answers. That's what a lot of modern workplaces actually look like. The best leaders figured out that meaningful connection isn't a perk or a culture initiative. It's the foundation. And you can't build it while you're hiding behind your solutions, your data, and your need to be the one with the answer. The armor has to come off first. Share this with a leader who needs to hear it.

What Mr. Rogers Can Teach You About Leadership: Pause and Reflect When researchers studied flourishing workplaces, they didn't find leaders barking orders or running tight agendas. They found leaders asking "why does this matter to you?" And then waiting. That pause—the one that feels uncomfortable—is exactly where trust gets built and people feel genuinely heard. Mr. Rogers wasn't just good TV. He was modeling something most executives never learn. Save this as a reminder to stop filling the silence.

Ballroom History: The "Grand" Ballroom I'm keynoting a conference today in the "Grand Ballroom," which reminds me of the famous Grand Ballroom of the Drake Hotel. In 1920 the hotel installed a spring-loaded floor to leverage the Charleston craze and keep dancers partying there all night long. Today, most hotels have a "Grand Ballroom" but sadly its mostly quarterly reviews and the Cupid Shuffle.

The conversation is already harder because you called it "difficult." That label primes your brain for conflict. You walk in guarded. Defensive. Ready to win. But here's the reframe—from INSEAD professor Jean-François Manzoni: It's not a difficult conversation. It's a development conversation. You're not there to be right. You're there to strengthen the partnership. And sometimes that means discovering you're the one who was wrong. That shift in mindset changes everything before you open your mouth. Save this for your next hard conversation.

Ballroom History: Most events I speak at are in interestingly named hotel ballrooms. Today, I'm in a Ryman Ballroom. Named for Thomas Ryman, a Nashville saloon owner and riverboat captain who attended a revival in 1885 to heckle the preacher — and left converted, pledging to build a tabernacle. He built what became the Mother Church of Country Music. We still don't know how Thomas would feel about having a satellite church for corporate mega events.

Most workplace conflict isn't malice. It's a miscommunication. A misread expectation. A one-off mistake that spiraled. But the moment we assume bad intent, we stop being curious—and start building a case. "Why did you do that?" closes people down. "Help me understand your perspective" opens them up. Curiosity creates space. Accusation shuts it down. And here's the thing: when you lead with curiosity, people don't just explain themselves. They start trying to understand you too. That's how trust actually gets built. Save this one. You'll need it.

Scripting a hard conversation doesn't make you more prepared. It makes you more fragile. Because your conversation partner doesn't know the script. And the moment they go off it, you're stuck—replaying your monologue while the real conversation moves on without you. The research-backed alternative? Bullet your thoughts. Know the outcome you want. Know the core message you need to land. Know the beats—not the lines. That's what keeps you present instead of performing. Share this with someone prepping for a tough conversation.

The word that's quietly killing your hard conversations? "You." "You always do this." "You never listen." "You made me feel that way." It sounds direct. But what it actually does is assign blame—and the moment someone feels blamed, they stop listening. Starting with "I" isn't weak. It's strategic. It owns your experience without putting the other person in a corner. And that's what keeps the conversation open instead of defensive. Anger, frustration, disappointment—all valid. But they're yours to own, not theirs to carry. Save this for your next hard conversation.

You think you’re flying with a particular airline. You’re actually flying a bank.

Cold outreach is the hard way to network. Most of your professional world is already one or two introductions away. You just haven't asked yet. Try this instead: Go to someone you already know and ask — "Who do you know in [industry/region/role]?" Then ask for the introduction. That's it. No awkward cold emails. No LinkedIn messages into the void. The network you need is probably hiding inside the network you already have. Share this with someone who hates networking.

Over-preparing for hard conversations is its own kind of avoidance. When you script every word, you stop listening. You're waiting for your cue—not actually in the room. The fix isn't less preparation. It's different preparation. Know the beats you want to hit. Know what you want them to understand. Know the outcome you're after. Then let go of the script. Hard conversations aren't performances. They're partnerships. Save this the next time you're dreading a tough talk.