unfortunately you can't control everyone's perception of you down to the smallest detail. they have their own lives and brains that shape the way they see you, and no amount of people pleasing will ever change that
you literally can't look at anything online anymore without the company hunting you down in your email like"you forgot something. you left this in your cart. did you still want it? what about this? or this completely unrelated thing? come back and buy something"
i feel like we need a word like "ragebait," but for posts that are just trying to make you feel ashamed of yourself. so you can read it and go, "ah, this is just shamebait" and move on with your day