DrJoeKort

Gay men who are only attracted to men and have satisfying sex with women before coming out and in long term marriages are still considered gay. Once they come out and identify as gay everyone accepts that. Now take a straight man that is only attracted to women, but also enjoys sex with men and our culture wants to change his identity to anything but straight.

Turning a straight guy isn’t love—it’s validation.

Getting ghosted probably doesn’t say as much about you as it says about your former partner. Research has found that certain types of people are more likely to engage in ghosting than others. sexandpsychology.com/blog/2020/7/22…

Thank you for the acknowledgment Bobby!

When a woman has one non-heterosexual thought, she’s fetishized. When a man has one, he’s stigmatized. Both are problematic. Sexual behavior does not automatically define sexual orientation. Not everything is about attraction. Sometimes it’s about context, curiosity, or the experience itself. Reducing people to labels ignores the nuance of how sexuality actually works. Link to full video on YouTube in my bio. youtu.be/0Io4G5vDbl8?si…

When a woman has one non-heterosexual thought, she’s fetishized. When a man has one, he’s stigmatized. Both are problematic. Sexual behavior does not automatically define sexual orientation. Not everything is about attraction. Sometimes it’s about context, curiosity, or the experience itself. Reducing people to labels ignores the nuance of how sexuality actually works. Link to full video on YouTube in my bio.

@TightoLoveqa Yes!

@drjoekort If anything conversion therapy would make me crave men more all that repression sitting in a room with multiple horny men

I was a gay little boy. I am a gay man. No amount of quackery conversion “therapy” abuse could make me straight. It isn’t children’s fault that adults sexualize LGBT youth and believe children don’t know because they aren’t sexual. We know. I knew. It isn’t about sex. It is about who we are at our core. If I never had nor never have sex another gay day in my life, I’m still gay.

Therapists Hate This One Trick… Just Be Certain

I used to only be attracted to older men. Then one day, that shifted and I found myself attracted to younger men. In this conversation with Jessica Levith, we talk about how sexual and erotic interests can evolve over time and why these changes are often misunderstood. Instead of seeing them as something wrong or out of control, we explore how context, life experiences, and personal growth shape what we’re drawn to. Sexuality isn’t static. It evolves. Watch the full episode of Smart Sex Smart Love. Link in bio.

Supreme Court Decision Reverses Protections for LGBTQ+ Youth

“Men don’t cry.” That message has shaped generations of boys into men who feel deeply but struggle to express it. Suppressing emotions does not make someone strong. It often creates distance in relationships and increases stress, anxiety, and disconnection. Emotional regulation is a skill. It can be learned at any age. Men deserve to express their feelings without their masculinity being questioned. What would change if we taught boys how to name their emotions instead of hide them? crsh.com/men-dont-cry-w…

When you realize your partner has real limitations, it can be easy to focus on what’s missing. The question becomes, “Why can’t they just meet me where I am?” What most people don’t realize is that every limitation often comes with a different kind of strength. Something they struggle with in one area, they may excel in another. In my own marriage, my husband is incredibly logical, while I’m more emotional. Instead of fighting that difference, I’ve learned to value it. He helps me think differently, problem solve better, and see things I might miss. When you shift from trying to change your partner to truly accepting them, the relationship begins to change too. Link to the full video in bio.

Should your partner have close friends of the opposite sex? This comes up often. For some, it feels threatening. For others, completely normal. The issue usually isn’t the friendship. It’s the meaning behind it. Are there boundaries? Transparency? Trust? Or secrecy and defensiveness? Healthy relationships aren’t about control. They’re about communication and agreed-upon boundaries. How do you feel about it?

Happy Bisexual Health Awareness Month. Bisexual individuals experience higher rates of anxiety, depression, and health disparities compared to both heterosexual and gay or lesbian populations. Yet they are often overlooked in conversations about LGBTQ mental health and medical care. The world is still binary seeing people as gay or straight. Many bisexual people face unique stressors such as invisibility, invalidation, and pressure to pick a side. These experiences can impact self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. If you identify as bisexual, your experience is real. Your identity is valid. And your health matters. Affirming and informed care makes a difference.

My husband has Asperger’s and it saved our marriage and bedroom lives. Hear me out on YouTube in this video. youtu.be/xodDIM4vfF0?si…

A partner assumes that because their partner has Asperger’s or is on the autism spectrum, it must explain struggles with sex or intimacy. The question becomes, “Is this why our connection feels off?” What most people don’t realize is that you cannot generalize autism. Every person is different, and every relationship is different. In my own marriage, that assumption didn’t apply. My husband actually had a stronger sexual desire than I did. The difference wasn’t about lack of interest. It was about understanding each other. When you stop assuming and start understanding the individual in front of you, the narrative begins to shift. From frustration and confusion to clarity and acceptance. Link to the full video in bio.

Crossdressing is something many men engage in for a variety of reasons—pleasure, self-expression, or exploring different aspects of themselves. When women discover their partner crossdresses, it’s common to feel unsure about what to do next. It’s important to remember that crossdressing doesn’t necessarily mean someone is gay, bi or trans. The key is to create a safe, open dialogue. Gently approach the topic, show acceptance, and give your partner space to share. Mutual understanding takes time, and it starts with empathy.

Grosse Pointe parent calls Pride flag “indoctrination” — is it really, or just visibility?