Larissa

Sub drop and Dom drop are real things, but they’re often explained badly online. They’re not automatically guilt, shame or “you did something wrong.” Usually they’re more like a nervous system and hormone crash after an intense emotional/physical experience. During scenes people can experience 👉🏻adrenaline 👉🏻endorphins 👉🏻dopamine 👉🏻emotional vulnerability 👉🏻deep focus/intimacy 👉🏻altered headspaces Afterwards the nervous system settles… and sometimes swings hard the other way. That can look like ✋🏻sudden sadness ✋🏻crying ✋🏻exhaustion ✋🏻irritability ✋🏻feeling empty or disconnected ✋🏻anxiety ✋🏻vulnerability ✋🏻embarrassment ✋🏻emotional sensitivity ✋🏻questioning the scene afterwards For some people it’s mild. For others it can hit hard for a day or two. The “guilty feeling” part sometimes happens because 🫱🏻the scene touched shame/taboo themes 🫱🏻somebody has internal conflict around sex/kink 🫱🏻they feel emotionally exposed afterwards 🫱🏻they weren’t actually as ready as they thought 🫱🏻or they mistook intensity for emotional safety Dom drop exists too. Dominants can crash after carrying responsibility, adrenaline, emotional containment and performance pressure. A healthy dynamic doesn’t pretend drop never happens. It plans for it. That’s why aftercare matters. Food. Water. Sleep. Reassurance. Honest check-ins. Nervous system recovery. What concerns me more is when people romanticise severe drop as proof of “real submission” or “deep connection.” If somebody is repeatedly emotionally devastated for days after scenes, struggling to function, spiralling, becoming dependent, or unable to regulate themselves between sessions, that’s not something to glamourise. A good Dom/me should notice that pattern and slow things down, reassess, and prioritise the person over the intensity.