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1. Can I afford my children alone financially, emotionally, and physically, if my partner ever becomes absent, unreliable, or disengaged?
2. Have I considered the reality that I may not always experience “a marriage as a couple,” but instead a situation where I carry most of the responsibility alone?
3. Do I understand that children are not only emotional responsibilities, but also long-term financial and physical commitments that require consistent support?
4. How responsive is my partner to small, everyday requests for help?
When I ask him to assist with simple things, does he respond willingly and consistently or does he delay, avoid, or forget until I handle it myself?
5. Does he use weaponized incompetence, making tasks harder or incomplete so I eventually stop asking him?
6. If I ask him to do something simple like an errand or picking something up, does he see it as shared responsibility or as a burden?
7. Does he take initiative in supporting the home, or do I have to constantly remind, manage, and direct him?
8. Am I entering a partnership where responsibility is shared or one where I will carry most of the mental, emotional, and physical load?
9. If I became overwhelmed, sick, or unavailable, would the household and children still be properly cared for?
10. Am I choosing someone who is emotionally and practically reliable or someone I will constantly have to compensate for?
11. Am I preparing for a true partnership or slowly stepping into single parenthood while still married?
12. When I am overwhelmed or exhausted, does he support me or do I still end up managing his emotions too?
13. Can I be vulnerable with him without being dismissed, ignored, or emotionally burdened further?
14. When there is conflict, does he take accountability or do I end up fixing everything emotionally?
15. Does he apologize with real behavioural change or repeat the same patterns after saying sorry?
16. Does he avoid difficult conversations until I initiate them every time?
17. Do I feel respected in my voice, boundaries, and decisions or constantly challenged and undermined?
18. Does he treat me as an equal partner or as someone expected to carry emotional and domestic labor?
19. Is he consistent in his actions, or only helpful when it suits him?
20. Can I rely on him under pressure, or does everything fall on me during difficult times?
21. Am I attracted to who he is todayor who I hope he will become?
If nothing about him changed for the next 10 years, would I still choose this relationship?
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I am going to be quoting this with questions you should ask yourself as a young woman who already thinks she is ready to get married
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