Ali | Dating & Relationship Coach

@ratemyskyperoom Wow, a 9/10!! Making me sad I don’t live in that apartment anymore 😭

Love the afternoon light. There’s a bar. Art. Coffee. Minor cord violation. 9/10 @findingmrheight

Don’t force your present self to solve problems that don’t yet exist. Those are problems for future you.

When you set clear boundaries, not everyone will want to date you. And that’s a good thing.

We could drive ourselves crazy trying to understand the “why” behind someone’s feelings and why they don’t match our own. Or, we can accept that we’re not aligned, and move on. Are you a psychic? Then best choose door number two.

If you’re feeling like the person you’re dating is different over text versus in person, try this script: “I really like how I feel when when we’re together, but our communication between dates makes me anxious. Do you think that’s something we can work on?”

If you wait to feel like you’re “fully ready” to start dating… …you’ll never start dating.

I like to ask about someone’s dating intentions right upfront on a first date. Here’s the script: “So, what would you say the ideal outcome of dating is for you right now?” And then give them silence to fill.

It’s okay to tell your partnered friends you feel lonely. It’s okay to ask them for one-on-one time away from their partners. Here’s your script: “I love you and X together, but I miss our one-on-one time. Can we get a dinner on the calendar? I’m free ______ or _______.”

If you’re ever about to ask yourself: “Is this normal?” Don’t. Ask this instead: “Is this working for me?”

Can we please stop calling people desperate for going after what they want? If you want to talk to someone…reach out to them. It’s not desperate. It’s bold.

In dating (and anything), your level of investment should inform your risk tolerance. Low investment? Swing away. High investment? Proceed with caution.

When you go through a break up, it can feel like starting over. But remember you’re not going back to the same drawing board. It’s a NEW drawing board. One with much more data than the ones before it. And that data will help guide you towards an even better future.

@LeslieStreeter @washingtonpost Hi! I’m a dating coach (mostly on IG and Tiktok @findingmrheight) and would love to participate. Twitter isn’t letting me DM you!

Do you have enough message bait in your profile? Prompts so compelling that someone just HAS to message you to find out more? I can help! Sign up for my workshop tomorrow, Thursday 5/27, and learn how to write a compelling bio of your very own. Link in bio!

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If you aren’t ready to say you want a relationship, you aren’t ready for that relationship.

A red flag is not a dealbreaker. A red flag is a cause for pause.

If it’s right, there’s nothing you can do wrong. And if it’s wrong? There’s nothing you can do right.

Should you let someone chase you? Absolutely not. Because one person chasing implies that the other person is running away. That’s a tough dynamic to break, and do you want to be running away from your partner forever?

You have to stop checking who watches your story. Most story watches are meaningless. But if it *does* mean something, do you want to be with someone who sends signals through story views?