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@MadiTheMuse @GZarasahara That’s exactly the point Goddess, 100% accuracy!

I think this is where the distinction between compulsion and submission matters. If there is no structure, restraint, communication, or commitment outside of the dopamine rush itself, then the dynamic starts looking less like D/s and more like intermittent-risk addiction. Submission requires intentionality.

Why is it so hard to find subs that enjoy the power exchange dynamic, the devotion, worshipping their Goddess with everything they have and truly value building something real? All I see lately is quick drains and come back in a month when they have more money.

@MadiTheMuse @GZarasahara Of course it’s possibile. Sorry Goddess but that’s not the point I was talking about. It’s about controlling the urge once a sub is addicted, waiting the next month it’s difficult. Of course your example is not contradictory to what I was saying

Chasing the high of a large send does not have to mean that a long-term dynamic is impossible. I have a sub I've known for years who does one large drain per month, but he is consistent. He makes space for me in his budget. He does not deactivate. He communicates. That is how you can build something real beneath the thrill.

I need to be brutally honest for a moment. My dominance is desire-based, not duty-based. I absolutely love dominating men... when it feels right. You know how you're not constantly in "sub headspace" well I'm not constantly in my "domme headspace." Many subs have witnessed 'flipping my domme switch.' When you’re playful, engaging, and actually inspire me, the spark is electric. Everything flows naturally because I genuinely crave it. That’s when I’m at my best: creative, cruel, and completely in the moment. But when a sub becomes demanding or onesided, that spark dies fast. For example, when someone just says “assign me tasks,” what they’re really asking for is constant creative labor from me (new ideas, check-ins, punishments, rewards) while they sit back and obey. That turns my dominance into work, which isn't as fun for me and I lose interest. To be clear: I have zero problem giving tasks or instructions, that was just an example. I thrive with interactive subs who are comfortable letting me get to know them and connecting with me. I dominate because it feels good to me in that moment, not because it’s being demanded. That’s why I’m not constantly available. I come online when I'm in the mood to dominate! This is what genuine, authentic dominance looks like for me. xx Keeley

if you’re a sub and feel like you’re not getting what you want out of a dynamic, have you tried… - prioritizing HER wants - COMMUNICATING IT??? - taking initiative to serve and interact to garner the dynamic you crave yes yes and yes? are you SURE? are you CERTAIN? because before you point fingers at a Domme for not reading your mind, you better ensure you’re not just playing dumb and docile, giving “oh poor me” energy as opposed to actually being subservient and selfless, and COMMUNICATING with her. if you’ve done all of the above and still aren’t comfortable or content in your dynamic, either suck it the fuck up and accept your place in her life or move the fuck on to someone more compatible.

@princess_manvii She forced me to lick dog piss from the ground

What's the most hum!!!ating thing you've done as sub? I need something to laugh at you.😂

@mistressbarbiee It would be a dream😍

Subs who get off on real abuse... 🥰 Looking for a good boy who can take my punches today. Kneel, chest out, no safeword bullshit. I want to unload hard! face, ribs, gut while you count every hit and thank me like the pathetic pain slut you are. DM if you’re broken enough to beg for it. 😈

let women win. let us take you over. it feels good. it feels right. you don’t need to think about it. you don’t need to think. we’ll think for you. you need us to think for you. let women take control. you need women in charge of you. you are no good at thinking or deciding.

@Herrin_Opheliax Literally my dream

Meine Fantasie.. Einen Sklaven als Haus bzw. Gartensklaven halten. Dauerhaft angeleint und in einer Holzhütte im Garten am Leben. Kriegt nur meine Essensreste hingestellt und darf nur rein, um Dienste für mich zu erledigen. Sonst ist er dauernd angekettet und isst auf allen 4en🔥

@alquis13 Omg, finally😍you speak the thruth, so Thank you Goddess

"how can you be a finsub and be broke" never made sense to me because they're lit addicted to sending their money away??? of course they're broke??

Me not caring even a little about using your BM info to pull you back in line should not fill you with fear, you should be grateful. To know that I care about your progress so much, that I won’t let your silly rational ideas ruin our fun. You finally have someone who you can rely on to keep you chained up forever.

@lilithsfindom 31😍

𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 !! ᢉ𐭩 sent an initial tribute +1 handed over b1ackmail information +5 sent money to get blocked +2 sent more than £1k in a single send +5 maxed out a card during a session +4 done an irl cashmeet +4 been caged +2 sent for feet pics +1 sent for f@rt vids +3 been forced to slap/punch ur b@lls +2 sent ur full card details +3 sent to a domme’s boyfriend +2 made a 2dfd account to support ur addiction +1 got drained on anydesk +4 sent more than £100 in a single send +2 been cucked +3 had a debt contract +3 bought socks/shoes from a domme +2 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘂 𝗴𝗲𝘁? ˙⋆✮

@notparkerposey Sorry if I allow myself to speak and I appreciate the first part on the budget. But, what you describes it isn’t properly the reason Why long term it’s a mirage? Obv also subs have their responsibility lacking consistency, loyalty or sincerity

If you tell me a budget, I’ll stick with your budget. I’ll even remind you of it when it’s hit. If you choose to continue to send more, that is on you. If you try to speak to me outside of play and it’s more than a quick “have a nice day/update to your schedule/issue” I WILL tell you to send. YOU are in control of your actions and calling dommes unethical because you can’t control yourself or stick to boundaries is childish. And you know what, dedicating your whole twitter to whining about it isn’t going to pull you out of debt any faster. Deactivate and go to therapy idiot.

@GZarasahara So the problem with findom it’s the addiction for both. Sub can’t stop searching that rush and the same for Goddesses bc the rush of power by trying to push the subs over what they can afford

@GZarasahara AND if a Goddess makes the effort of budgeting the sub’s money and take it one piece at a time, 99% of the time the sub complains about being annoyed. For the latter (Enough money), I mean that all of that pattern can be avoided if you are a rich sub that can afford many sends

@st4in3d_m0th_ @AddictiveJenna @payjayde Awesome answer!

@AddictiveJenna @payjayde girl this is just how a healthy long term dynamic with a sub looks. if it’s not your thing, fine, but they’re clearly comfortable enough to have a playful dynamic outside of sessions and the kink. This should be celebrated, not shat all over.

@xxbbyvv It would be a real dream😍

can i kick your face?

You call it being broke. I call it a moment to prove how much this really means to you.

@eva_autumn_ If it was in Italy, I will be totally in🥺

My surgeon sub says if I break ur ribs and ur under 55 it’s fine btw. NHS approved.