HRM 👑Lisa Gwamzhi🎓

Apparently this is a tradition that has been going on for decades and it’s a feast of a particular deity which lasts for 7 days. In this 7 days, women are not supposed to be outside and if found, men have the free rein to molest and sexually assault them.

Founding Fathers failed in not connecting train across Lagos the way London is connected. You should be able to go anywhere in Lagos by train - including airports and bus stops. Then every state should have been connected by train. We were doing big boys for our continental neighbours, when we could have entered a relationship to link us by rail.

Something is fundamentally broken with how young boys are growing up right now. It's not discussed enough. Earlier this year, I visited an Amala restaurant. You know those ones where you stand across a transparent glass and make your orders. Three young boys stood beside me. The oldest couldn't have been more than 18. Baggy trousers, oversized crop tops, and flashing their phones for everyone to see. Within seconds, they started shouting at the girls serving to attend to them. One of the girls politely told them to be patient. That there were other people ahead of them. They felt offended. Next thing I heard: "Ogun kee your papa. How much be your salary sef? I dey blow your whole salary one night for Martell inside club." I was stunned. Even Dangote wouldn't be that proud. Thankfully, the older men in the restaurant made them apologise. But the damage was done. The disrespect and humiliation of that young girl. Just last week, I had a conversation with a friend about this. We both agreed: things are getting out of hand. My biggest concern is parenting. Many of the kids that will be raised in the next 15 to 20 years might just lack any form of values. Already, there is a drug abuse pandemic among young boys that isn't talked about enough. Finding young people between 17 and 24 who are not into drugs is like passing a thread through a needle in the dark. Codeine, trams, loud, molly... They're mixing substances like it's a lab experiment. Money fa? Their mindset is completely warped. You see 15-year-old boys talking about buying a Benz. And some actually do. How do they get the money? That's a gist for another day jare. But they're not interested in school, work, or anything requiring patience or hard work. They just want to earn illegally and live lavishly. Should we talk about their attitude to life? Very uncouth. Very reckless. You can even see them here on X. Disrespecting people, mocking people with honest jobs. Celebrating scammers as role models. No respect for anything except money and flex. Now tell me. What kind of kids will these boys raise? What kind of fathers will they become? Kids exposed to drugs from birth. Kids who grow up thinking "pressing" is the only way. Kids who will never understand delayed gratification, sacrifice, or integrity. This is not just about one generation. Broken boys raise broken children. And those children raise even more broken children. The scary part? Many of these boys have parents who are alive and well. But those parents are either too busy, too ignorant, or too afraid to discipline them. Some are even enablers. "My son is hustling." "At least he's not begging." No sir/ma. That's not all that matters. Because when your son disrespects a girl trying to earn honestly, that matters. When your son is popping pills at 17, that matters. When he's scamming people and buying bottles with the money, that matters. We are raising a generation of boys who don't know how to earn respect. They only know how to demand it. Boys who don't know how to build. They only know how to take. A tree that grows crooked from the root will never stand straight, no matter how much you water it. INALEGWU.

Sometimes I genuinely worry about what Nigeria will look like in the next 25years.