Wesley Tan

Wemby *insanity* with Ruocco on the call:

1/ The goal of psychotherapy is to insert spaces for reflection where they have not previously existed—and thereby create opportunities to know ourselves more fully, connect with others more deeply, and live life more congruently

The potato paradox is a mathematical calculation that has a counter-intuitive result. "You have 100kg of potatoes, which are 99% water by weight. You let them dehydrate until they're 98% water. How much do they weigh now?" The surprising answer is 50kg

one of the most salient lessons i learned from attending a university that attracts brilliant people: courage is in shorter supply than intellect

Build your life more around what brings you purpose, and less around what soothes your fear.

Let me ask you two questions: What are you good at, and which of those things that you’re good at would allow you to do the most good in the world? Whatever the answer is to those questions—that’s the good you must do.

We live in between the promise of who we can become and the reality of who we have been.

This is insane. We can now detect feelings in real-time through facial expressions using AI. (Open-sourced code in the next tweet)

If for no other reason, we need to choose our most heroic lives, because a world desperately needs to see what it looks like to be fully alive. What the world needs most from you is for you to be fully alive.

“Anything is hard for people who want life to be east” - @erwinmcmanus #battleready

One of my difficult but important realizations in adulthood was that there are rarely “right” or “wrong” choices, just different paths to take. With every choice we make, we have to mourn the loss of all we didn't choose. In this way, growth & grief are inextricably intertwined.

In any given relationship, the person who cares less has power. The answer to this isn’t to care less, it’s to trust that when it comes to relationships, vulnerability will get you to beautiful places that power never could.

When we “lose it” over seemingly small things, it’s not about the present event. It’s our body going into fight or flight because it remembers the past.

Confidence comes from the ability to self regulate. Self regulation is the ability to process life around you and respond to it rather than reacting to your emotions. Reacting to your own emotions is exhausting and feels like a never ending cycle of stress.

everything will kill you so choose something fun

The fundamental insight of psychoanalysis is we do not fully know our own hearts & minds. Thoughts & actions hold more meanings than meet the eye This is why we take time to explore thoughts & feelings, vs. immediately rushing in to agree, validate or affirm the first thing said

After their shocking win against Germany, Japan fans stayed after the match to clean up the stadium. Respect ❤️👏 @ESPNFC

"Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you." #CarlJung

gm to everyone who knows focus is the paradoxical path to freedom

the inflection point is being yourself