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@MrShootAtWill @scarygordita if you think communist governments had any kind of “teamwork” in the past, I hope you pick up a history book
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@anishmoonka What a stupid AI written comment…
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Anish Moonka@anishmoonka·
They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks. The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays. So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there. A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now. He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less. His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid. He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird. This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over. When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.
Dear Self.@Dearme2_

Every time I see old couples, I always wonder how many times they’ve forgiven each other.

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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@ick_real listen to more music mate lol
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Unfortunately, as you get older, you gradually become less interested in new music and keep going back to the old favorite songs you once loved.
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@will_nba_hater “Based in New York” is your profile… Also, what’s Lindor’s team record right now?
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@DamonDawg Translation: “I’m sad Cam Williams didn’t pick my alma-mater over a better program for his development”
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
The @MLB owes Mason Miller a very detailed explanation or apology for tonight
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
Jokic really just forced a jump ball to save a TO. He would’ve tried to fight Beringer for that same reason last night. Weak move by Jokic lol
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
Mason Miller really just got his insane scoreless streak broken by a blind ump…
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@DakRandall Genuinely curious. Do you have an example of the Red-Sox commentators announcing a HR with the mundane, non-hype stuff you enjoy? I’d love to hear the difference.
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@ChrisGamerSpud “Can’t move on” 😂😂 You literally have “ex-San Diegan” in your profile all while admitting you left 13 years ago lmao. Take your own advice
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QuackedOnPadres@QuackedOnPadres·
Oh my god. DONT YOU EVER TELL ME THIS CITY DOESN’T LIVE FOR THIS TEAM
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@ChrisGamerSpud Appreciate it. Good luck with your mental health too!
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@ChrisGamerSpud I’m starting to think you had bad experience in SD and decided to internalize/take it out on the Padres
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Christopher 🇵🇭🇺🇸
Christopher 🇵🇭🇺🇸@ChrisGamerSpud·
@jacobnemo0 You can't handle the truth especially on my original comment. San Diego is bandwagon capital of the world. You people didn't exist until 2022. Those so-called real Padre fan's who showed up in 1998 either moved to red states, deported or dead.
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@ChrisGamerSpud You’ve used “you people” as your excuse for lack of examples three times now.
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Christopher 🇵🇭🇺🇸
Christopher 🇵🇭🇺🇸@ChrisGamerSpud·
@jacobnemo0 You can't handle the truth. You cannot handle the fact that an ex-San Diegan like me can criticize you people in the same fashion y'all criticize the Los Angeles Dodgers fan base 24/7.
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nemo@jacobnemo0·
@ChrisGamerSpud want a tissue while trying to play victim?
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Christopher 🇵🇭🇺🇸@ChrisGamerSpud·
@jacobnemo0 You people criticize the Dodgers 24/7 it's fine to you but once I do the same to the Padres then all of the sudden it's an issue.
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