i am deeply sorry to any of you who felt comfortable enough to open up to someone about your trauma & insecurities, only to have them throw it in your face when you were arguing later. that’s so unfortunate. that stings in a very different way. i hope you can heal from that soon.
if you let someone know for the first time how their actions have hurt or upset you, and the conversation ends with you apologising for doing this. it is a clear sign you are dealing with someone who is about to make your life very difficult.