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I strongly suspect some of us were not designed for modern life… We were meant to live in crooked little cottages, speak to birds, dry herbs from ceiling beams, and dramatically stare out of rainy windows whilst soup bubbled nearby! Instead…there are emails to be sent.

@Owoyibo lol, I don’t think that’s what this tweet is about,it is just saying that when you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, communicate with them, not shut them out for 1 week and expect everything to come back to normal after not talking to them for 1/2 weeks. Communication bro

@d_ocheido So the relationship requirement is now: unlimited talk time, no silent mode, no grudges storage.

Don’t marry anyone that keeps malice Don’t marry anyone that keeps malice Don’t marry anyone that keeps malice Don’t marry anyone that can go ling stretches without talking to you

@gocodejack It’s not easy getting laid off, wish you best of luck in your freelancing journey.

Got laid off the other day, I've decided to go freelancing way. Here's my kibanda, refer me to your good friends and family. binbyte.co.ke

@Wave5258 lol, I don’t even think there’s anything wicked in all that, that’s the right thing to do, just like when a man gives his wife monthly allowances, once everything ends, everybody go go answer ein papa name. Car not even child support, what is he continuing for?

He was intentional in every aspect of his life … showing love and showing wickedness..proper way to go

@zealprecious1 I see absolutely nothing wrong with signing a prenup, the conditions are also important like both parties not cheating etc, any party that violates the conditions looses any protection the prenup could have offered.

This Prenup thing, how did you get her to sign a prenup before marriage and she didn’t make a fuss about it ? Bcos I wonder how you will tell a Nigeria woman about Prenup before marriage and she won’t crash out and say you don’t love her

@wiseironman What does keeping options open mean? Isn’t that communicating with other potentials which could also possibly lead to cheating?

As a man, the first thing i leant earlier is to expect anything... No woman have ever made me loose myself.... I see through people am in love with and know when to ditch immediately.... As a man, you must keep your options open at all time...

@Iykconic Better quarter life than mid life 😂. But there will be some lucky people who will never experience it, everything will just go smoothly for them.

It is better to have it before 30. You cannot be battling midlife crisis and woman problem at the same time.

Psychology says some people avoid socializing not because they hate people, but because they can read them too well. They walk into a room and immediately sense the fake laughs, the hidden agendas, the performances. Their nervous system doesn't misread the signal, it just refuses to ignore it. Small talk feels like a tax they didn't agree to pay. Forced smiles cost them energy that takes hours to recover. They're not broken. They're calibrated differently. They don't avoid people. They avoid emotional labor that leads nowhere. When they do connect, it's deep, intentional, real. No masks. No games. Fewer friends doesn't mean loneliness. It means higher standards. That's not antisocial behavior. That's emotional intelligence.

I really hope no one out there thinks I’m suffering from their absence.

It’s a privilege to experience me. as a friend, lover and everything in between.

Somebody said “The love you receive from someone who knows how to be alone is the most sincere there is. A solitary soul loves you by choice, not out of a need for company.” and that’s so true.

That dopamine spike you get from solving a difficult problem >>>

No one wants to hear it but you will have to *work* on everything that is worth having in life. Your career, your relationships, your health - whatever it is... So if you don't want to work for it, be prepared to be very disappointed in the quality of everything you get.

UNPOPULAR OPINION: Introverts don’t hate socializing. They hate pretending.

Training my nervous system to choose an unfamiliar heaven instead of a familiar hell

The cost of avoiding structure is that every day has to be renegotiated from scratch.

I hate yelling. I hate getting out of character. I hate arguing. I hate being mad. I hate everything that makes me negative.

@samson_samsen Ehn?

The unforgiving person is the closest thing to a “good person,” even more so than the forgiving or empathetic person. A forgiving person is capable of forgiveness because he finds it easy to understand the behavior of those who offend him. This understanding is a function of possessing the capacity to act in a similar manner as those who offend him. He too is capable of hurting someone, and he knows it. However, a man who is incapable of forgiving people is equally repelled by offending them. He has a rigid but consistent ethical stance: he will not hurt, and he will not forgive when he is hurt. His lack of agency to be cruel to people mandates his lack of understanding for cruel character and thus makes him unforgiving of it. He will not forgive you for doing unto him what he cannot do to you. Right there is a good person.

If wishes were horse, I’d be the greatest horse rider.

1. You think you’re bad at boundaries, but you’re actually ruthless: You may think you have issues enforcing boundaries, but here’s the truth: it’s because they’ve never really crossed your real boundaries. When someone actually violates what you truly value, no one can cut people off faster or more completely than you can. You’ve just been choosing your battles.