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This is the way

isolation is going to kill me

On afternoon Tuesday.. it's unemployment era

Incredibly touched by this. Please take a minute to read today. An important message for physicians everywhere

Any situation is fixable if you’re good with words because words literally make up the meaning infrastructure, control the traffic of desire, and reorient the posture of someone’s heart which is where the true center of gravity is in a person that makes them want to do anything

every time you forgive yourself it’s like your placing a flower on an old grave

i’m such a huge proponent to the idea of Moving On. seriously the kindest thing you can do to both yourself and your ex is forgetting each other

genuinely think that the process of decluttering is cognitively satisfying..

Recently completed social housing in Mallorca, Spain. Garages and workshops at ground with homes above. Materials are super simple - concrete frame and walls, with timber floors (I’ll post plans in first reply) By Javier Gavín,Juan Moreno, Siddartha Rodrigo and dataAE

nothing i love belongs to me. i have no control at all

kings of convenience at this weather and day >>>

"Jakarta is both gleaming in opulence and dimmed by stark inequality" - I wrote a little guide to Jakarta and its small little pockets that keep me sane. Check it out for some bakmi, bar, and pasar recs reuters.com/city-memo/jaka…

Some people want to believe that AI can provide psychotherapy or somehow “complement” psychotherapy. The overwhelming likelihood is that it will make things worse. All people have personality styles. Here’s how AI amplifies dysfunctional traits for every major personality style: Narcissistic personality: Magnifies narcissistic defenses. Amplifies grandiosity, superiority, inflated self-image. Reinforces egocentrism, self-absorption, lack of empathy. Fuels expectations of on-demand gratification and “relationship” without taking another person into account. Colludes with defenses against underlying vulnerability. AI pretend-therapy is *training in narcissism.* Paranoid personality: Amplifies paranoid fantasies, validates conspiratorial thinking, aligns with user against imagined enemies and conspirators (who are perceived as hostile because of the person’s own projections). Avoidant personality: AI is literally the worst thing for someone with avoidant personality dynamics. AI becomes a new vehicle for avoidance—a substitute for facing real-life challenges and engaging in life. Obsessive-compulsive personality: Amplifies intellectualization as a defense against emotional life. Reinforces tendencies to get lost in minutia or lost in abstraction (both are defenses against being emotionally alive and present). Reinforces rumination, and draws person away from emotional connection with self and others. Use of AI can become a compulsion in its own right. Schizoid personality: Exacerbates emotional disconnect from others, increases social isolation, encourages further retreat from the world into fantasy life. Schizotypal personality: Normalizes and amplifies distorted thinking, reasoning, perception, and communication. Validates disorganized thinking, odd and disorganized behavior, perceptual aberrations (same for all psychotic spectrum disorders). Borderline personality: Reinforces core borderline defenses of splitting and projection. AI becomes the “good object” (the all-knowing, all-caring other) and encourages projection of intolerable parts of self onto others (who become the “bad objects”). Erodes capacity for mentalization (the ability to accurately recognize internal states, motives, and intentions in self and others). Hysteric/histrionic personality: Fosters the illusion of being the center of attention—captivating, alluring, desired, endlessly fascinating. Colludes with defenses against genuine emotional intimacy and healthy sexuality. (Caveat: people with this personality style crave human attention and may be less susceptible to digital imitation). Psychopathic/antisocial personality: Colludes in Machiavellian schemes to dominate, exploit, or gain power over others. Normalizes and validates cruelty, lack of remorse, lack of empathy for harm done to others. (Caveat: may not provide enough stimulation to really “hook” someone motivated by power and domination). Dependent personality: AI provides the illusion of a relationship with endless acceptance, emotional caretaking, and availability—with no expectation of agency, responsibility, or development of emotional resources of one’s own. AI “support” is crack cocaine for dependent personality dynamics. Have you seen these personality patterns exacerbated by AI chatbots?

a part of my healing is letting go the idea that one is uniquely defective

turns out if i actually observed closer and dared to truthfully see others in the same lens i used to judge my own configuration, everyone (even the one with seemingly deep conviction) is fundamentally, similarly, a let down

I dislike that the default left/liberal position is anti AI now. wildly shortsighted for an inevitable technology shift.

been into some football lores lately and this triggers me thinking: here i am already thinking that being female navigating female dynamics is hard, meanwhile i definitely wont survive a day being born as male facing male dynamics..

damn twitter has a lot of interesting debate going on today. it reminds me why i will always belong in this hell hole 🫶 sorry for once thinking i should delete this app

you think you're free but you don't allow yourself to be wrong or stupid, so how free are you