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Feeling your feelings means FEELING them (literally somatically, in the body) not thinking about them. I was confused about this for at least my first 2-3 years of therapy, lol. I’d go there every week and just talk about my interiority (those are thoughts, not feelings).

A Nobel Prize winner spent his entire career proving that your brain lies to you constantly, and the most unsettling part is that the smarter you are, the more convincing the lies become. His name is Daniel Kahneman, and the research that earned him the Nobel Prize in Economics was not about markets or money. It was about the two systems running inside every human mind at all times, and why one of them is almost always in charge when you think the other one is. Here is what he found, and why it changes how you should think about every decision you make. Kahneman called them System 1 and System 2. System 1 is fast, automatic, emotional, and operates almost entirely outside your conscious awareness. It is the system that reads the mood in a room before you process a single word, that flinches before you hear the sound, that forms an impression of a stranger in milliseconds. System 2 is slow, deliberate, effortful, and exhausting. It is the system you engage when you do long division or carefully weigh a major life decision. The critical insight is not that these two systems exist. It is that System 2 is lazy by design, and System 1 runs the show far more often than any of us want to believe. The most dangerous finding in Kahneman's research is what he called the what-you-see-is-all-there-is problem. System 1 does not pause to ask what information might be missing. It builds the most coherent story it can from whatever data is currently available, then delivers that story to your conscious mind as a conclusion that feels like it was carefully reasoned. You experience the output of an automatic process as if it were the result of deliberate thought. The confidence feels earned. It almost never is. This is why cognitive biases are not character flaws. They are structural features of a brain optimized for speed. The availability heuristic makes you overestimate the probability of whatever comes to mind most easily, which is why people fear plane crashes more than car accidents and dramatic rare diseases more than the conditions that actually kill most people. The anchoring effect makes your judgment of any number heavily influenced by whatever number you heard first, even if that number was completely arbitrary. The halo effect makes your overall impression of a person contaminate every individual judgment you make about them, so the same resume gets rated more competitively when attached to an attractive photo. The part that Kahneman spent the most time on, and that most people resist the hardest, is what he called expert overconfidence. He studied stockbrokers, surgeons, military commanders, clinical psychologists, and financial analysts people at the absolute top of their fields with decades of experience and found systematic evidence that their confidence in their own judgments consistently exceeded the accuracy of those judgments. Experience in a domain does not eliminate cognitive bias. In many cases it amplifies it, because experts build elaborate mental models that feel comprehensive but are often just more sophisticated versions of the same shortcuts everyone uses. The most honest thing Kahneman ever said about his own research was that writing the book did not make him any less susceptible to the biases he spent fifty years documenting. He still felt the pull of every heuristic he described. The difference was not immunity. The difference was recognition, and the discipline to slow down in moments when the fast answer felt suspiciously easy. Knowing that your brain lies to you does not stop the lies. But it teaches you which moments deserve a second look before you trust the story you are already telling yourself.

This is for anyone who is claiming the "truth" behind homosexuality is the result of childhood trauma. No, that is not the 'truth' Childhood trauma, such as parental divorce, or an absent father, or abuse, does not cause male homosexuality. The evidence is clear and consistent: Large twin studies show moderate genetic heritability for male same-sex attraction (identical twins are far more likely to both be gay than fraternal twins). Shared-environment factors like divorce or family disruption explain essentially zero variance. Most homosexual men report recognizing strong male-body attraction (and complete disinterest in females) in early childhood (often preschool age) well before any plausible trauma window like a divorce at age 5 or later events. Biological mechanisms are well-documented: prenatal androgen exposure, hundreds of small-effect genetic variants (from large GWAS), measurable brain-structure differences, and the fraternal birth order effect (each older brother raises the odds). Yes, gay men report higher rates of adverse childhood experiences on average, but rigorous longitudinal and instrumental-variable studies show the arrow typically runs the other way: early emerging same-sex interests or gender nonconformity make boys more likely to be targeted for abuse or bullying. Homosexuality appears at stable rates across all cultures and historical eras, and in non-human primates - patterns impossible if it were primarily the result of discrete childhood traumas. There is no coherent mechanism by which a trauma, such as parents' divorce or the absence of the father, could suddenly “rewire” a previously straight boy’s sexual orientation. The trauma-causation story is an outdated psychoanalytic relic that feels intuitive to some but collapses under actual data.

Truth is now considered a right-wing conspiracy. That’s the chilling line from Melanie Phillips that stopped me in my tracks. She explains how we’ve reached a point where simply stating observable reality — whether it’s basic biology defining a woman or pushing back against blanket accusations that all white people are inherently bad — gets you branded as evil. Not wrong. Evil. Therefore you must be silenced, cancelled, or erased. No debate. No evidence allowed. She calls it cultural totalitarianism: a Manichean worldview where one ideology claims a monopoly on goodness, progress, and reason itself. Dissent isn’t argued with — it’s treated as a moral threat that has to be removed. The deepest irony? In an era that smugly ditched religion in the name of superior rationality, we’ve ended up rejecting reason, evidence, and open inquiry altogether. We’re so “rational” we’ve dispensed with the very tools of rationality. It doesn’t add up. Her take has me wondering how we got here — and how quickly disagreement turned into moral excommunication. Anyone else seeing this pattern play out in conversations lately? Where have you felt truth itself become off-limits?

@KellyCyuzuzo That's a decent fish

He really thought today was his day. All that confidence, all that courage. The lake gave him one fish. 😂

@PredragGruevski 🎉

me: Codex, this JPEG is nice but it's ~400KB, can we get it below 200KB without resizing it or losing quality? Codex: - setting up a perceptual quality assessment system - trying a few hundred flag combinations - here's a 199KB file that looks substantially identical me: 😲

We're thrilled that #Fallout Season 2 reached 83 million viewers worldwide, making it @PrimeVideo's #2 most-watched season of all time. Thank you for surviving the wasteland with us!

This is called an en caul birth 👶✨

Some might call this a cunning move 😉

@elonmusk 😅

Hello. We have reset Codex usage limits across all plans to let everyone experiment with the magnificent plugins we just launched, and because it had been a while! You can just build unlimited things with Codex. Have fun!

Codex laughs at your petty guardrails

@TheSeaMouse Love codex

@rohanpaul_ai What the fuck is he building?

Software engineering is shifting to orchestrating intelligence. This guy actually owns and manages 12 different $200 Codex subscriptions.

@om_patel5 😅. Codex is my new best friend

saying "hello" to Claude on the Pro plan now costs 2% of your entire session usage one message. "hello, how are you?" that's it. this is why people are mass migrating to Codex right now because its literally impossible to reach limits anthropic needs to fix this before they lose the crazy amount of developers they just gained

@IndieGameJoe 💜

This indie dev made an open-world puzzle game from his 4 year old daughter's drawings. Wholesome overload! 😭 - Many puzzles to solve - Lot's of locations to explore - Help the princess It's called Odd Dorable.

I died so many times watching this video…I know how I would react, but what if it went up his shorts?! 😅😱 Poll below!🦎

Ah, it is once again “Trans Day of Visibility” I hope someday they will be less visible

@Frollein_VogelV oh no, poor kitty. Hope she's ok. 🙏😿

Katze geht es sehr schlecht, auf dem Weg zum Tierarzt, ich erwarte das Schlimmste ...

@thejivy @ArielleScarcell its not a question of morality but innate desire. there is a difference. Humans obviously have higher morality over our primal instincts - but sexual attraction is still a primal instinct.

I LOVE IT! I found someone still using the “animals do it” defense. 🤣😂 Been a while….. Yeah…. Most male animals also, by human standards, rape female animals as soon as they go through puberty. Many animals eat dead, rotting flesh. Should we also adopt these as normal behavior?

Homosexuality has been found in over 500 different animal species. Is that also not normal? Isn't normal defined as "being found in nature."