HONITEL👑@HonitelHQ
Silent treatment is emotional abuse. I understand that sometimes your partner may do something that really hurts you, and in a bid to process things, you need your space, which is fine. But when that space becomes prolonged just to punish them, it becomes toxic.
Silence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder; it makes the heart resent the other person. You get used to it to the point where it becomes the new normal.
At first, you can’t function because your significant other is not speaking to you. You are disturbed, you can’t even work properly, and that is because you genuinely care. Then it goes from being torture to a point where you become emotionally stoic.
You are there giving them the silent treatment, talking to other people in a bid to make them jealous, meanwhile they are mentally detaching from you. Until one day, someone starts to make them feel seen, heard, and special again, and they just let their guard down.
We are all human beings with emotional needs. We like and crave attention whether we admit it or not. And the moment we can’t get that from one person, we naturally start to crave it from another.
You are an adult. When your partner offends you, TALK. Hold them accountable and make sure they take responsibility for their actions. Communicate your displeasure and work your way toward conflict resolution immediately.
I have said it before: one of the easiest ways to know someone is in love with you is by how they handle conflict resolution and how they treat you when you are not on good terms. You can’t claim to love someone and then watch them suffer from your silence or malice. That is not love; that is torture.
