Marissa 💃🏾

My dear father Gary Evans died of COVID-19/pneumonia complications Jan. 29. He was 70. I wrote for @latimes about what his death has meant for me as a daughter and health reporter. He was my biggest fan. I’ll be heartbroken until the end of my days. latimes.com/california/sto…

In a viral TikTok posted last month, a woman shared that her husband tried to destroy her favorite perfume by smashing the bottle against the sink and broke the sink instead. When commenters said his behavior was unfunny and abusive, she posted a screenshot of money she has made from TikTok, which “haters” contribute to. In another infamous video, a woman said she’s on her fifth day of silence with her fiancé after he bought her a cheap butter dish for Christmas while she got him an Xbox. In a follow-up post, she said she loves Kerrygold and insisted the original video was just for laughs. “You 100 percent deserve what you tolerate,” one commenter replied. Of course, no one understands the nuances of a relationship better than the people inside it. But these recent examples illustrate a phenomenon we’ve probably all experienced, when a friend or stranger shares tidbits of her partner’s bad behavior but will still defend him when anyone calls him out. It’s whiplash: “My husband hates me,” the shtick begins, followed by some version of “Stop, guys, it was a joke” or “You don’t understand our relationship.” You might argue that these videos are little more than sitcom schlock or rage-bait meant to maximize engagement. But the fury viewers feel is real. In a moment when women are reexamining the value of hetero relationships, many are tired of telling friends and loved ones to leave the men dragging them down. They don’t want to commiserate; they want you to do better. Bindu Bansinath writes about the strangers on the internet who are getting riled up by people who defend their partners’ bad behavior: nymag.visitlink.me/CFpmZp

Mark me NOT SAFE from layoffs at The Post today.

In 2021, I was hired by @washingtonpost to cover health disparities & explore the way racism & social inequality affects health. 4 months ago, I became the generations’ reporter exploring how health is experienced by different pple across the life course. Today, I was laid off.

I’m affected by layoffs at The Washington Post today. There aren’t enough words to describe the immense privilege and profound responsibility I’ve felt since hired at 25 as an editor. As a Black woman covering politics (a dwindling cohort), today that feeling is magnified.

I'm among the hundreds of people laid off by The Post. This comes six months after hearing in a national meeting that race coverage drives subscriptions. This wasn't a financial decision, it was an ideological one.

The best thing was seeing the news notification about this and then hearing the fireworks barely one minute later. 🙌🏾

Well, folks, personal news: After 7 years, today is my last day with @latimes. It's been a privilege working with some of the world's best journalists at my hometown paper. Thank you to everyone who's supported my work. I'm not done telling climate stories. More news to come.

New: Jimmy Kimmel Live! will return on Tuesday The Walt Disney Company issued the following statement today regarding Jimmy Kimmel Live! "Last Wednesday, we made the decision to suspend production on the show to avoid further inflaming a tense situation at an emotional moment for our country. It is a decision we made because we felt some of the comments were ill-timed and thus insensitive. We have spent the last days having thoughtful conversations with Jimmy, and after those conversations, we reached the decision to return the show on Tuesday."

HELLO!! 🐦‍⬛ We putting the kids to bed early because the Little Miss Drama Tour is coming to a city near you! Sign up now thru this Sunday, September 21 at 10pm PST for artist presale livemu.sc/cardib

NEW: In his first presser after the deadly floods, the Kerr County Judge said they do not have an emergency alert system. But we've learned that not only does the county have such a system, but first responders asked that it be triggered very early Friday AM. Some residents didn't get an alert until after 10am — six hours after the river began its precipitous rise. Now, county officials won't answer our questions about why. More with @paulflahive: tpr.org/news/2025-07-0…

Started losing it at “there was a praise break” 😂

I talk about Real Housewives being a great anthology series on women from different backgrounds at different levels of wealth, but it’s also a great study on the intersectionality or lack there of,of feminism&how women of different races/cultural backgrounds interact w each other

Anna Wintour, the editor-in-chief of Vogue magazine, announced she will be stepping away from her role helming the publication. huffpost.com/entry/anna-win…

My father would’ve been 74 today. I would’ve made him pot pies for the freezer and we would’ve eaten burgers for lunch. 💛 Remembering I have years ahead of me where the calendar will be so unkind with the double whammy of his birthday and Father’s Day falling on the same day.

My dear friend Imani is one of the strongest, bravest and realest people I know. I admire everything she is and I absolutely believe every word she shared ❤️

TLDR: We met up for drinks. I said I needed to go home. He offered to pay for my car so I’d stay longer. When I insisted, he went through the motions of asking for the address for my destination—then called the car to his home instead. It wasn’t miscommunication. It was a setup.

I’ll be offline for a bit to rest and take care of my nervous system. If you’ve messaged me and I haven’t replied, please know I’ve seen the love—and I appreciate it more than I currently have the energy to express. 5/5

Retweets, replies, comments—having my back out loud means more than you know because predators thrive in silence. cjr.org/feature-2/wesl… 4/5