Marek Isalski has stopped using this hellsite

That was the line. Au revoir, I'll be on Mastodon. apnews.com/article/twitte…

@Funsox @that_chrisr @polygonben @BSidesLondon You've shown yourself to be aggressive towards me, in the face of a gently positioned explanation of what you said you were trying to understand. Why should I give you any further respect or time. That's rhetorical. I won't bother looking for your answer.

@Funsox @that_chrisr @polygonben You've shown yourself to be vaguely threatening towards me, and seem to want to debate in bad faith. I owe you absolutely nothing about my personal life, @funsox.

@that_chrisr @Funsox @polygonben … so soured my opinion of "the community" that I feel I shouldn't have bothered. Well, that's if I ignore the personal attacks, the transphobic abuse, etc.

@that_chrisr @Funsox @polygonben You and I both know how hard inclusivity at events can be, and it's a fine line we have to tread to welcome the most people through our doors to let speakers share knowledge and inspire the audience. But the backlash I've had over this has …

@that_chrisr @Funsox @polygonben ...and that's among the gentlest of opinions that talented technical people were sending me.

@that_chrisr @Funsox @polygonben Thanks, Chris. I continue to hold you in very high regard, even since before you tapped me on the shoulder that day. Respectfully, it's not about whether you or I think a tentacle dildo is sexual. It's in the eyes of the engineers who are telling me: "put me off attending"

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon What's the point of a conference but to spread the most clue to as wide an audience in the industry. I'm genuinely offering this community you care about a different perspective, of people they aren't reaching. If all you've got is threats for me, then I'm done with you.

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon Don't be too shocked as more events adopt Respect Policies that inspire more inclusive humour.

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon Guess you weren't interested in understanding where I was coming from after all. Never mind.

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon You might argue back, "but that's an extreme example! he was the CEO! he is a convicted rapist!" And I say: our industries are about defence in depth. Sometimes we should consider how to minimise the ways problems can start. That's why I listen to those people's voices.

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon …sector of the industry and mine have a shared blight, Lawrence Jones, who reportedly created toxic workplaces with sexual joking. But it's only a joke. See a couple of tweets further down my public timeline if you don't know the very recent history.

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon We can play semantics about golden tentacle or not. But if the tentacled ones are posting videos of "knighthood" by something they're referring to as a "dildo" then I think people can be forgiven for perceiving "sexualised themes" in a conference about... not sex tech?

@Funsox @polygonben @BSidesLondon Is the better question not, "oh shit, are you telling me people are in your DMs saying they think exactly what you just tweeted, and that's why they won't go to @BSidesLondon?" that's maybe more valuable to know if you care about your event?

@polygonben @Funsox …for the sake of jokes which could have a very different angle and remove the "spice" that they didn't order with their conference attendee ticket. How could trying to broaden audience who want to learn ever be embarrassing?

@polygonben @Funsox My role as someone who helps organise, chair, shepherd content includes listening to the voices of people telling us why they don't come to our events. And the messages I've received since that tweet say there are still a significant group of people who'd feel excluded…

@DarkEden21 I mean, why are lesbians bringing men to a bar anyway? Parody, right?

@DarkEden21 This has got to be a parody account? Right? But I can't tell anymore, because British politics is a farce, and also I've had 17h sleep in 4 days 😵‍💫