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🇺🇸Homelander’s Trauma 🇺🇸
By the way, if libtards truly had any ideological consistency they would have written in a redemption arc wherein Homelander gets the “help he needs ™”
That famous libtard compassion disappears in The Boys discourse for a brief reason detailed below.
But examining now what happened: he was raised in a lab and tortured with not a single affectionate parental figure his entire life. Of course that drives any functioning person insane, of course he’s starved for affection, of course he develops a self-sabotage pathology to attempt to ameliorate it. He's wounded.
But libtards instead choose to shame that, emotionally citing hunter gatherer survival utility ethics, which hails “neediness” or needing anything really from others as evil. It takes from others without giving back or pulling one’s own weight. Our minds read emotions as resources to be managed like this, hence we resent emotional “hogs” which is what you are if you’re an adult according to peanut little amygdala.
Remarkable instruction into feelings as our barometers, because in quantity there’s actually no difference between giving him the affection he needs as a child vs adult. But the feelsie brain can’t calculate that, it just felt heuristically presumes the adult already got that, hence asking for more is weak and needy. “Weak” because it emulates a child’s inability to provide for themselves.
Homelander’s pathology is a classic, he concluded he doesn’t deserve love considering nobody wanted to give it to him. Hence, he risks hurting himself further if he tries to garner affection for who he really is, and presumes he’s too odious and will lose any chance at affection at all.
So he hedges by “buying” their affection with superpowers, and linearizing that by being “the greatest” among them. This can get the foot in the door and emulate affection, positing that perhaps it’s a step towards full affection.
But the ego — as defined in the classic definition in the tripartite personality model — knows this isn’t real. Hence it can’t integrate the affection he receives into the psyche. He knows it’s not for him, it’s for the persona, superpowers, etc. They don’t love him, they love the way he makes them feel and love that they can vicariously feel powerful through him.
Thus instead of him getting closer to affection he grows more distant from it. Exacerbating that felt risk mentioned earlier. Herein his disgust for them emerges, they are like little robots with buttons to push and only ever get off to that. He’s disgusted by what seems to be their inability to love someone or genuinely befriend and like them. The more fake love he gets, the more It seems they won’t love him for him. This makes him try to hedge more or buy affection another way, suspecting it’ll open a different path. Especially since it feels increasingly emotionally dangerous to be himself such that it becomes a reinforcing loop that only sinks him further and further into distance from people and intimacy.
That’s why it escalates into the God part of the show. Worship conflates as affection, and “aboveness” conflates as worthy of such affection. Since God is the “most above” he resolves that he’ll get the greatest possible payoff by being God. Other facets of this emerge too, like power as protection,
There was one scene in season five where a character displayed authentic affection for him, which was when they found the bunkbed hideout. A truly “compassionate ™” libtard would use this to catapult redemption in some way. He did things too bad to get off Scot-free, but overall it would draw attention to the pathology of trauma.
The answer for people like Homelander would be to love himself and essentially parent himself. This entails chipping away at negative self-talk and finding ways to challenge himself to do something that resonates with him as moral, good, challenging, and meaningful. You might’ve noticed, for many like him, this becomes doing the “being a better parent to my kids than my parents (or lack thereof) were to me”
It’s not weak to have suffered trauma, to have unmet developmental needs, and to have resorted to nebulous self-sabotage patterns. It’s just what happens sometimes. Sometimes our minds get the best of us and resort to these mechanisms to protect us, and sometimes they don’t work. It’s not even needy to even have anything resembling this. To be so starved as to resort to drinking breast milk to at least slightly feel closer to a motherly figure is a tragedy warranting the utmost compassion.
Anyone that has any humanity can see that a character like Homelander emulates a very real tragedy in a person’s development. I see a person like that and just want to help them resolve their suffering in their head. Nobody is truly cartoonishly evil, and in a grand irony libtards’ attempt to pathologize him proves they don’t thinkso either. If it’s all because he didn’t have a mom, then it’s because of that, not because he is purely malevolent.
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