So glad his friends are going to visit now takes the pressure off me as financially it’s hard doing it all clothes visits monthly money ,, there really should be something in place for familys with someone in prison as realistically you become financially responsible for them
@RoyalNottingham finding it difficult to comprehend that your booking system does not allow me to book two seats for @1Judilove as it leaves a seat spare? Discrimination against parties under 3....
@Sunshine82026 I totally get this. I'm working two jobs and in long distance university and it can just feel relentless juggling it all 🤯 I often feel guilty that I'm not seeing him enough,writing enough etc it can be very overwhelming. Chin up this isn't forever xx
@Jennamc9 This may be so clichē and maybe not what you want to hear,however sometimes we excel and exceed our expectations when feeling out of our depth. Sending love and lots of good luck your way xx
Had an interview today for a new job a pay band higher than my current one … total fail my mind is constantly racing with random thoughts n my anxiety has never been so bad every time I spoke I wanted to vomit I used to be so confident with my work n want to do well now I just
@Jennamc9 Sending so much love to you 💕 family visits always feel bittersweet for me,the what was and the what could be and then the what is. It's difficult but day by day we will get there 🫂
First family visit today ,, first time in 14 months iv sat next to him n watched him play with our baby girl such a lovely afternoon but also so sad leaving him .. just watching them play made me fill up with tears but I suppose this is our new normal and I need to adjust
I'm currently at City Hospital with a friend. I've heard nothing but bad things about this hospital. My experience of this place so far though is opposite. The staff here are very helpful and polite.
@X2IKON@fae_support So sorry to hear this,it's taking the ****! Have you tried housing associations such as Peabody ? They are affordable and will accept benefits
@fae_support I've not received a copy of my tenancy agreement. Altogether the landlord gets £1007 per month for 1 room and I share the kitchen and bathroom with 3 others. I could rent a 1 bed flat for less than half that price. Trouble is majority of landlord's don't take people on benefits
Does a landlord have to give a period of notice before issuing rent increases, or can they drop it on you 24 hours before you're due to be paid? Service charge has been increased from £60 pm to £67pm, bearing in mind they already get £235 a week rent from housing benefit.
@xoxfe1 Really feeling the strain of this at the moment! Almost questioning 'is it worth it?' I know it is but it's hard,draining and soul shattering..
@Jennamc9 Tbh I don't either. I truly believe us on the outside live in a whirlwind of adrenaline and trauma fight ot flight whilst trying to keep it together in the eyes of our loved ones inside so they don't feel more guilt but it does get exhausting time to time xx
@miss4ft10 How amazing r u still getting though 6 years later I dno how u do it This year has been hard enough I can’t imagine how il cope by the 6th year xx
Exactly 1 year to the day the start of the nightmare happened ,,, he didn’t turn up at school to collect our baby .. I spent hours ringing hospital’s worrying he had been in a car crash or accident little did I no my like was about to be turned upside down 4ever …
@Jennamc9 Totally agree. Was saying to OH that for the last 6 years it has been autopilot of logistics-visits, letters,calls all to make the journey more bearable for him but who does that for us on the outside?
The trauma and upset this Has caused me is something I don’t think il ever get over n knowing we still have another 6 and a half years of this kills me I don’t think il ever learn to cope life gets harder and the mental struggles get worse every day
Training yesterday around Childhood trauma, one of the guys used to be a "paedophile hunter' he believed he was saving real children... I have saw so many families destroyed and targeted by these vigilante groups 🤦🏻♀️ it gave me a horrid nightmare 😭
I'm finally going to see the doctor tomorrow about my mental health. This is a huge thing for me. I find it much easier to hide behind twitter and writing than saying things out loud.
@Nye_agbe It really affects how much I share on the phone tbh. Nothing worse than expressing yourself and it feels defeaning because there is no intimacy of eye contact or holding his hand 😔
I really struggle with talking over the phone and especially texting. I hate not being able to see people's body language and expressions and vice versa. That is something I will never get used to on this prison journey. The forced single regular mode of interaction.
@paddywack1981 I am at this stage next year and look back on the last 7 years thinking 'omg how niave was I?!?!' but at the same time I am proud of the strength and resilience I have developed,all in the name of L O V E❤️