Pat Stedman | Dating & Relationship Coach for Men@Pat_Stedman
This is why I keep telling you guys not to be overly concerned about the state of things. Just because something has been, it does not mean it will continue.
Peak feminism is over. The movement is dying. Yes, there remains plenty of residual cultural momentum supporting it, but women are no longer being catered to like they are precious little deserving angles. SIMP culture is passé. And as the dating market collapses under this disruption, you will see more and more women breaking ranks, as all the desirable men are requiring different behavior.
The reality is men have seen too many things about the darker side of female nature that used to be hidden and constrained. They have seen too many cautionary tales.
But what is most interesting is that women themselves are starting to see it too. They are starting to acknowledge the implications of their dual sexual strategies, and the self-defeating results of trying to have it all.
They are, actually, starting to be humbled. They are grappling with the contradictions inside themselves; the variance between their ego wants and what their heart and loins crave. This surrender is gradually allowing them to be loved by men in the way they have always craved.
In other words, while the hour is early, there is light peeking over the horizon.
All of this said, I want many of the trad guys in particular to pay attention. Because if you think you can rely on any kind of tradition or institution to grant this female devotion to you... you are sorely mistaken.
Institutions, with rare exception, are actually the ones who are going to be the biggest hold outs of feminism - because they will be lagging with the cultural changes. The anchoring point of healthy male-female dynamics in the future will not be any legal or religious stricture, but the frame and vitality of the man. We are not yet experiencing a return to tradition, so much as a return to human nature.
This is why you can expect to see varied relationship structures, both monogamous and polygnous, in the coming years. Relationships that succeed are going to be high-trust, but they are also going to work with biology. Higher-valued men are not going to accept beast-of-burden or guilt/duty-oriented marital dynamics. There will be a rearrangement in power structures, not in an abusive manner, but in that men will demand the sort of female behavior in commitment they feel they can command in the general marketplace. And they will treat their women in turnas charges to cherish rather than objects to use and be disposed of.
This is how trust between the sexes will reemerge. It'll be a rocky process, but those who operate with honesty, compassion, and integrity about who we are as men and women and what we need will be the ultimate winners.