Paola

I wrote another blog post!

@Aella_Girl (or we’re defining mid differently)

@Aella_Girl man, I feel like I think of my face as being well above mid and do not think of my face as being clearly better than yours and am wondering if I’m just delulu

i am aware my face is mid. I had ppl rate it (and also i have eyes) and i'm clearly mid. i agree this makes it confusing as to how I've been so incredibly successful as a sex worker

@gmiller @jaltma have you tried using Claude code lately? My guess is that it takes, and I’m being conservative, an IQ of 85 to still do some cool things with it.

@jaltma Average IQ is 100. What % of high school students do you think are capable of the logic, reason, and abstract thought necessary to code -- with or without AI?

I hope schools are teaching kids to just sit down with codex / claude code and make stuff.

it’s honestly pretty alien to me how much most people revolve their lives around avoiding potential bad outcomes

My best guess is that this is mostly an assortative mating thing rather than a standard female preference thing. I, like Aella, have also found myself almost exclusively attracted to guys without bosses (and this has also ranged from extremely successful men to guys who sleep on couches and smoke DMT all day). I think that if we asked a bunch of people “which two of these three girls are down to date guys who are couch surfing well into their thirties?” we’d get something close to 100% agreement from the crowd.

Interestingly I agree w Aella a lot of the time, but don’t feel this strongly at all Sure CEO types can be sexy, but often at a tradeoff of being inflexible Unemployed types are not very sexy Academic &/or nerd types who are passionate about their work are sexiest to me

@DkSemyon @FeralPHunter @Pandora_Delaney you can definitely snuggle!!

@phenoatypical @FeralPHunter @Pandora_Delaney Omg can I have him??? Or maybe just snuggle him 😻😻😻

There was big spider crawling on top of my comforter and none of my boyfriends were here So I did what any reasonable person would do in such a crisis: Ran outside Burned the house down And fled the country

@Pandora_Delaney I don’t think most house cats are particularly good at this, but Larry (my cat) is

@phenoatypical I didn't know cats do that, shame that I'll likely soon have housemate w allergies

I was thinking about this exchange, and my best guess is that people in California aren’t intuitively tracking the worth of interpersonal connection. I immediately feel warmer towards someone if they pick me up from the airport, if you build a community of people willing to do these types of things for each other, I think it ends up being a closer and warmer community. For me, the benefits of having a closer and warmer community far exceed $15-20 and an hour of my time here and there.

@gnostrils fair. my guess is this is mostly explained by ppl in california actually having more money and being more utilitarian/practical

i actually don’t understand why ppl care about airport pickups/drop offs in the age of uber. if the airport is like 10 min away i see how it’s nice, but driving an hour or more round trip is just a huge waste of time.

@Romy_Holland (although, his hair always signaled “silly little guy” to me)

@Romy_Holland I’m almost certain that it’s the huge eyes

everyone who sees my baby defaults to thinking he’s a girl. i don’t know if babies are just so cute they all read as feminine (like cats) or if my baby is actually just really pretty.

putting it out in the open, as you just did, to see if anyone bites seems like a pretty good idea! I can’t see myself agreeing to do this for basically any of my male friends but also feel like if any of them asked with the energy you seem to be bringing to this, there’s 0 chance it’d result in me feeling bad about them.

What happens if I do? Maybe I get laughed at, or a friend feels awkward, but those aren't so bad. Worse, I could durably sour a friendship, or get a bad reputation. I like to think I'm skillful enough and have cool enough friends to avoid those, but they aren't impossible.

I've got some stuff on my mind that feels real embarrassing to talk about publicly. My heuristic, which has served me well, is to flinch towards that cringe instead of away, so I'm gonna just tweet it embarrassed. Here goes:

@p8stie @NatPurser @1929stockcrash one time a girl in high school told me that I should cut my eyelashes

@NatPurser @1929stockcrash Who told you that . No woman has ever told me that before and usually girls give good looks advice. this take is a male fantasy

women love telling other women they’d look great with a bob. crazy how much sabotage there is in this world …

@NathanpmYoung yeah, I think it’s definitely a very strong signal if I’m consistently texting back for an extended period of time, but not really in the other direction

@phenoatypical Yeah I think it's a weak signal. Some poeple are bad at texting or disorganised or anxious, but most people aren't.

If they aren't texting back, they probably don't want to date (60%). I cannot think of a person I've wanted to date or where we have subsequently dated, where we have not texted promptly. I'm not certain, but I feel like good to be pushed slightly.

RIP Robert Trivers - the Einstein of evolutionary biology and one the greatest thinkers of our age. Among other things, Trivers came up with parental investment theory, reciprocal altruism theory, and parent-offspring conflict theory.

@strangestloop hippy hollow in Austin requires people to wear water shoes due to the sharp rocks despite being otherwise fully nudist, I went there on my 24th birthday (around 4 years ago), and I think that was the last time

When is the last time you were Advanced Naked? (naked with shoes on)

@Romy_Holland I was talking about exactly this with @robertskmiles and he’s been pushing me to write about it :0

one problem with dating a lot before settling down is that some ppl end up with misleading info about who's in their league. most people are going to assume the most desirable people they've dated are fair reflections of who they can expect to marry, but this is often not accurate. I know a guy who has a killer hinge profile and manages to land plenty of first dates with hot girls who end up not being interested once they meet. I've known multiple women dating guys they hope to marry (sometimes even living together!), but the guys are explicitly planning to eventually look for someone better and don't consider the girls marriage material. your actual league is determined by the caliber of person willing to commit to you, not who's willing to date you or sleep with you.

@sergeantsup yes same!!

I am soo much more charismatic on the days I'm feeling energetic

@climatepaige yeah I actually do think you’re probably right about 1 exceptionally exciting partner being the best case scenario for me

@phenoatypical Then you might feel more inclined towards monogamy with an exciting partner! Polyamory (as far as I’ve observed) fully stems from the need for a lot of attention, which might be why they frequently try to convert monogamous people (who like giving one person a lot of attention)

I feel a slight ping of envy when I encounter people who seem to clearly know what they want. It’s really not obvious to me whether I’m better suited to poly or monogamous relationships, and I’m fairly confident this isn’t a failure of introspection but rather a psychological setup that pushes quite strongly in different directions. Both options honestly sound similarly awful to me, and at the same time, similarly endurable and preferable to being alone!