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CATAT INI GUYS 📌 Orang miskin itu bukan nasib, tapi mayoritasnya adalah hasil keputusan dan lingkungan. Banyak orang miskin bukan karena nasib sial semata, tapi karena kombinasi: - Keputusan buruk berulang kayak boros, malas belajar, terlalu cepat punya anak tanpa persiapan, gengsi tapi tidak punya skill. - Lingkungan yang toxic (keluarga broken, teman-teman yang sama-sama miskin dan suka menarik ke bawah, budaya "cukup santai aja"). - Kurangnya mentalitas growth & disiplin jangka panjang. Tapi ada orang miskin yang benar-benar korban sistem (misalnya lahir di daerah sangat terpencil, orang tua sakit kronis, atau mengalami bencana besar). Mereka minoritas, tapi nyata. Kemiskinan sering ditularkan secara budaya, bukan hanya uang Yang paling berbahaya bukan kekurangan uang, tapi kemiskinan pikiran kaya Mindset dunia ini zalim, orang kaya pasti korup, Kerja keras tidak menjamin kaya, mending santai. Pendidikan mahal, buat apa sekolah tinggi. Fokus konsumsi kaya HP baru, rokok, judi, cicilan motor daripada produksi skill, bisnis, invest atau menabung. Orang miskin yang punya mentalitas ini biasanya akan tetap miskin meski dikasih uang banyak contoh nya coba liat banyak pemenang lotre yang bangkrut lagi dalam 2-3 tahun.

5 surahs that work like medicine (save this for when you need it): 1. surah ar-rahman (55) - you forgot every blessing sitting right in front of you. this one lists them until you can't deny it. 2. surah ad-duha (93) - Allah feels distant and the silence is louder than anything. He addresses that directly in the first 3 ayat. 3. surah al-inshirah (94) - your chest is so tight you can't even name what's wrong. 6 ayat. read them slowly. 4. surah yusuf (12) - you need proof that the worst chapter of your life leads somewhere beautiful. this entire surah is that proof. 5. surah al-mulk (67) - the future scares you and you need something to hold onto before you sleep. your Quran isn't decoration habibi. open it tonight.

Mahasiswa ikut Rohis, dibilang teroris. Mentoring keislaman dihapus, masjid kampus dicurigai. Kini giliran mahasiswa mesum, pada bingung.

di jakarta, yang masih solat 5 waktu rajin dan masih inget solat di tempat umum itu minoritas kalau lu lagi nongkrong lalu keinget solat dan pas ke mushola/masjid daerah banyak nongkrong itu banyak yang solat, kamu sedang bersama sekian persen minoritas yang masih jaga solatnya

If your manager unexpectedly puts you on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP), do not sign it immediately. Do not argue. Do not quit quietly. Execute these 18 steps immediately to flip the leverage:

SubhanAllah… today I learned something that shifted my entire perspective. In class, the ustadh asked: “Why do people die?” Most of us answered: “Because their time (ajal) has come.” He said: No

@innovacommunity Sonet ama citroen yang baru enak mana?

Coba test drive om. Tapi sebaiknya test drive Raize dulu, baru sonet😁

هل تعتقد أن الشخص الذي يقرأ كل يوم جزأين أو ثلاثة من القرآن ويصلي الفرائض والنوافل ويُقيم الليل ويصلي الضحى وله نصيب من الذكر ويذهب لعمله أو لدراسته ويلعب رياضة ويجلس مع أهله ويطلب علمًا دينيًا أو دنيويًا هل تعتقد يكون عنده وقت يعصي الله؟ الفراغ هو السبب

Daftar 8 kebijakan China yang bagus: 1. Otonomi daerah luas yang dibarengi dengan penangkapan 4 juta orang pejabat pemerintah korup. 2. Pembongkaran besar-besaran korupsi militer, & penangkapan puluhan perwira korup. 3. Pemusnahan 1.7 juta orang preman. 4. Pendidikan yang masif dan maju. 5. Pemusnahan spekulasi harga aset properti. "Rumah dibangun untuk ditinggali." Yang ini sedang *dicoba* dilakukan. Meski niatnya jelas, hasilnya tidak terlalu jelas. Tetapi, yang jelas China berhasil menghindari kolaps sistemik ala 2008 dalam kasus Evergrande. 6. Penciptaan ekosistem industri pabrik, IPTEK, dan pasar ekspor yang sangat canggih dan dalam, via kombinasi perencanaan matang dan kompetisi Darwin ekstrem. Di China, para inovator calon konglo didukung pemda, difasilitasi infrastruktur, *dan* disuruh sadis saling bunuh. Para pemda sendiri berkompetisi ekstrem dengan pemda lain dalam membangun pabrik, infrastruktur, suplai listrik, talenta IPTEK, dan reformasi birokrasi yang sangat pro-pabrik. 7. Digitalisasi layanan publik. Dari lapor polisi karena mobil digores hingga konsultasi tentang kepatuhan bisnis pribadi terhadap perda, semua tuntas lewat hotline 12345. 8. Pemisahan antara pekerjaan intel anti oposisi (dipegang MSS) dengan pekerjaan polisi (dipegang polda). Polisi China menjadi lebih profesional karena "pekerjaan kotor" sudah dilimpahkan ke tempat lain. Idealnya ya "pekerjaan kotor" ini sebaiknya dibubarkan saja. Tapi kalau tidak mau membubarkan, minimal dipisah jauh-jauh dari rakyat langsung. --- "Otonomi daerah adalah buruk karena dinasti politik, kades, preman daerah, dan raja-raja kecil sangat korup." Ya kalau begitu tangkap saja. Kalau melawan, tembak saja. Di China, 4 juta orang pejabat korup diburu sampai desa-desa dan ditangkap sejak 2011. Yang melawan ditembak. Hari ini otonomi daerah di China sangat luas. --- Tiga poin pertama bisa disimpulkan sebagai berikut: 1. Tembak preman 2. Tembak preman 3. Tembak preman Kalau disesuaikan ke rasio jumlah penduduk Indonesia, berarti kita harus: 1. Menangkap sedikitnya 800.000 orang pejabat pemerintah Indonesia yang korup, 2. Membasmi puluhan preman berseragam berpangkat tinggi yang rampok dan ketinggalan zaman, serta 3. Memusnahkan minimal 350.000 orang preman. Deng Xiaoping menurunkan tentara dan menuntaskan Poin 3 dalam waktu tiga tahun, yaitu 1983-1985. 1.7 juta orang preman dimusnahkan habis dari muka publik. Xi Jinping sepertinya butuh tiga periode kekuasaan untuk melakukan Poin 1 dan 2, bisa jadi lebih. Puluhan perwira korup ditangkap.

ibu rumah tangga start kebun 2×5 meter, telaten tanam rawat sayur, cabe & bamer. Hemat uang belanja dan bisa nabung emas pegadaian. 10 tahun berselang emasnya dibelikan kebun yang lumayan, mulai start menanam lagi, penghasilan berlipat, beli kebun lagi.

Sit Down & Listen to Your Wife!

Barusan ketemu sejawat, beliau cerita ada pasiennya udah berobat ke Penang sampe tabungan habis bis bis. Akhirnya lanjut berobat di Indonesia pake BPJS. Kok cerita cerita gini ga tersiar? Ya soalnya bukan medis Indonesia yg dijelek jelekin wkwkwkwkwkwkwkwk.

Did you ever read Surah Baqarah and think: "Even I’d get bored eating manna and quail every day… why does Allah get so angry when they ask for vegetables and lentils?" I bet you never looked at it from this angle. Knowing this will shift your perspective on your own life:

Let’s talk about the 7-7-7 rule of parenting. I know that some of you might have heard of it before. But what I want to share with you are rare tips that you cannot find in your regular blogs. Why the 7-7-7 Rule in the first place? We are all exhausted. I see it in my DMs every day. We are fighting battles in our homes that we should not even be in because we try to use the same heavy hand for every age. The truth is, you cannot use the same logic for a toddler that you use for a teenager. When you use the wrong tool at the wrong time, you do not just fail to teach the child. You break the relationship between you and the child. The 7-7-7 rule is the solution to this constant friction. This rule was first echoed by Ali ibn Abi Talib (May The Almighty be pleased with him). He said: Play with them for seven years, Discipline them for seven years, and then Befriend them for seven years. It sounds easy, but most of us do it in the wrong order. We are too serious with the toddlers and then we try to be the boss when they are already teenagers. (1) The 0 to 7 Years Stage. This is the stage to build the love tank. Imam Al-Ghazali said in Ihya, that a child's heart is a precious jewel that is blank and ready for any carving. In these years, you should play more than you lecture. One rare tip that you can adopt going forward is Overhead Praise. Direct praise is good, but overhead praise is gold. Instead of telling them they are good, tell your spouse or a friend about their good deed while the child is in the room. When they hear you brag about their kindness when they think you aren't looking, it builds a deep confidence. Action Tip: Find one small thing they did well today and mention it to someone else while they are nearby. Make sure they can hear you. Be intentional and consistent about it. (2) The 7 to 14 Years Stage. This is the time for character and boundaries. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi in Sayd al-Khatir, warned us about forcing a narrow vessel to hold too much. Remember I talked about Taghaful (Strategic Ignorance) yesterday. This is the right age to use it. It means you see the mistake, but you choose to look away. If you correct every single thing they do wrong, they will develop a hearing block against your voice by age ten. You have to save your corrections for the things that matter. Action Tip: Start today by adopting the 70/30 rule. Ignore 70% of the small irritations, maybe it is a messy desk or a slow response. Save your energy for the 30% that actually involves character or safety. Only speak up for the big boundaries. You are building authority by not wasting it on small irritations. Pay attention to their demeanor and be consistent. (3) The 14 to 21 Years Stage. In this stage, the "boss" version of you must die so the "consultant" version can be born. The scholar Ibn Miskawayh in Tahdhib al-Akhlaq, wrote about the refinement of the soul as a process that requires respect. If you keep using force, they will just learn to hide their life from you. Action Tip: Your job now is to protect their Sirr (Sacred Secrecy). If they tell you something heavy, misdeed or embarrassing, keep it between you. Do not share it with the extended family. To keep them close, you must be a safe vault. This week, try to listen to them for twenty minutes without giving a single piece of advice. Just listen so they know you are a friend they can trust with their future. In all, the 7-7-7 rule is about realizing that you are a gardener. You don't make the plant grow. You just provide the right environment for it to reach its own opening (Fath). As a parent, which stage are you currently navigating? Let’s discuss in the comments👏🏿👏🏿

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The Prophet said: Four things contribute to misery: 1. A bad neighbor. 2. A bad wife. 3. A cramped home. 4. A bad means of transport. ● {Saheeh Ibn Hibban (1232)}

Dear Parents, I want to share one parenting secret with you. The one you won’t find in your regular blogs. And trust me, regardless of your faith, you will find this tip beneficial. I want to explain why some kids become completely stubborn the more you punish them. I am doing this because I got some messages yesterday from people who have kids in the diaspora and how their kids have become stone-hearted to their parents’ warnings. It is indeed painful. Remember that I mentioned the monumental book of Imam Al-Ghazali, Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. We have more things to learn from it. In this book, he talked about a fragile part of a child's mind called the “Veil of Shame.” Note: Every child has this because they are born upon Fitrah (purity of the soul). When a child does something bad for the first time, they usually try to hide it. They are afraid of being caught because they still value their dignity in your eyes. The scholars explained that if a parent exposes the child, screams, yells at them, and punishes every mistake, you are tearing down their veil of shame. Once a child realizes you already see them as a bad person, the humiliation has happened. They stop caring. You have destroyed their internal brakes. When they have no dignity left to protect, they will start doing those bad things openly and boldly. How do you notice this in your child? You can tell this is happening in your child when they stop trying to hide their mistakes and start becoming brazen or "strong-headed" when caught. This is a sign that the veil is thinning. To fix this, you need to use a concept called Taghaful. It translates to intentional ignorance or pretending you did not see a fault. Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us this. He did this with a young companion called Usama bin Zaid. But I see that our parents, due to their high expectations, are often too impatient to look away. If you catch your child doing a hidden wrong, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is pretend you did not see it. Do not confront them and strip them of their respect. Instead, bring up the topic later in a general conversation. Tell a story about why that action is destructive, without looking at them or accusing them. Let their own conscience do the punishing. Let them repent and fix it in secret. A parent who hunts down every small mistake will end up raising a child who has no shame left to lose. Let me know if you want more of these scholarly parenting tips. I will be willing to share. My DM is full with different issues. I cannot answer everything, but I am sure with these tips, a lot of those issues will be solved by God’s grace. Thank you for your attention. Allah knows best.

One day, the Holy Land will be unified, and Christians and Muslims will live together as our ancestors did for centuries.

Fun fact... Mengapa laki-laki dipaksa jumatan sepekan sekali? Supaya hati kita gak keras guys. Setidaknya sepekan sekali kita dipaksa untuk mendengarkan nasehat. Makannya, gak boleh main² ketika khutbah, meskipun hanya dengan kerikil. Apalagi khatibnya sampai ditinggal tidur.

@mhuseinali Kok ga berlaku sama ketaatan hukum, dan aturan ya? Contoh sehari2 ya dijalanan

Diceritain seorang C-Level soal uniknya orang Indonesia. Beliau suka becanda. Misal ketika team izin ke toilet dia becandain dengan jawab “no you cannot”. Kolega India 🇮🇳 jawab “hahaha funny”, lanjut ke toilet. Kolega Spanyol 🇪🇸 jawab “no thanks”, lanjut ke toilet. Kolega Indo 🇮🇩 engga jawab apa-apa. Diem dan beneran gajadi ke toilet. Lalu canggung satu ruangan sampe bilang “Im joking, ofcourse you can” Yang bikin dia culture shock adalah betapa tingginya tingkat obedience orang Indonesia. Seakan consent di sini tuh manufactured through power relations. Padahal orang Indonesia itu cemerlang dan kinerjanya luar biasa, tapi begitu atasan bilang X meskipun itu gak sesuai prinsip atau pemahaman, mereka akan tetap taat. Kenapa ya dan gimana cara kita unlearn karakter ini?