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Masc/femme, male/female, man/woman are intertwined binaries that are culturally defined. There has NEVER been room for the range of human existence in those binaries. I don't want to be "masc" or "femme." I'm not a blend. I am distinct. I am only "non" in those binaries.

@herong with my fave quote: "The pen1s isn't the problem; it's the patriarchy." Talks on bio essentialism, scarcity/abundance tension in anti-trans ideologies, & the structural nature of safety have been super informative. So glad they are out there doing incredible work!💚

We also learned about how homophobia and internalized homophobia intersect with misogyny. Much of this comes down to people who lose power and privilege through queerness looking to regain that power and privilege in another way. A lot to chew on.

Today, I'm starting the @TheIRMS Summer Institute on Contesting Supremacist Mobilizations. I'm really looking forward to using this opportunity in my follow ups with artists and future planning. 💜💚💜💚 #genderqueer #challengegendernorms

Gender is NOT a biological fact. Male/female is the biological definition of statistically significant clusters of features. We (colonial societies) NEED a different, nonbio way to talk about (1) body types, (2) the categories of seggsy bits & (3) gender as distinct from those

own personal boundaries and standards of respect. Will I be blamed for disrupting the family? Maybe. Probably. But the most important thing is the safety of trans/nb people in their own lives and spaces. Zero room for #transphobia. #lgbtqia #2slgbtqia

There is a bodily relationship but trans ppl do not always feel like they need to change their bodies to feel affirmed. (Including me) Refusing to respect someone's gender because of body parts is bigoted and ignorant. I now need to talk to this family member about my

The partner of a family member has a trans sister. This partner said they'll refer to their sister as "brother" and he/him until there is a physical transition. This is bigotry. Body parts, hormones, chromosomes do NOT determine gender. Gender is not a biological fact.

This is a great response, and one of the many reasons we (white ppl) need to be picking apart our language and re-building it in healthy ways. Science language is and has been used in abusive/oppressive ways regarding race, sexuality, and gender.

@beelzebadger That's a great point! I see "bio female" as a constellation of statistically significant biologically defined features that do NOT determine gender. You're right, and TERFs use it in such a way that it is harmful. That's a good thing to remember. Thank you.

I have a biologically female body, but I am fixated on male-ness &masculinity, & despite dysphoric episodes, I don't feel a drive to change bodily. I badly want badly to be considered "one of them" when I am around men. Tough not to feel like I'm not betraying women in a way.

@katharine_blair Much love and support from over here ❤️

@projectcud Crawling back into my cave to avoid these thoughts again today <3

it is tough to tight-rope walk that space between "i'm not like other girls" &"no, really, I'm not a girl &i need to be grouped with boys to feel comfortable, b/c i fit both boy &girl culture, but my body limits me to girl, so socially put me with boys but i'm also not a boy."

if my gender is my relationship between self, body, and the human-defined world, then i've learned it's "apocalyptic himbo"

Cutting the sleeves off my "Talentless Hunk" shirt with the calm determination of a monk meditating under a waterfall

We (white settlers) divide the world into male and female, man and woman, femme and masc. What is left over for those of us who are neither? #queer #2slgbtqia #lgbtq #nonbinary #neutrois #thirdgender

It’s amazing how many people seem to think “gender is a social construct” means “gender is fake” and not “gender is a complicated set of social and cultural conventions that inform the way that we relate to our interests and bodies and the people around us.”

It’s wild that a source of division in white families is children unlearning their racial biases while elders hold onto them. Whole relationships fractured for trying to be a decent person. Folks yelling at the dinner table because they can’t agree that all human life is valuable

@beelzebadger that's a great thought, though. like, if a "warrior" dance was just a warrior aesthetic, and not a "man" aesthetic, or a "welcome" dance was a home aesthetic and not a "woman" aesthetic? i think that's a great place to start!

dance is a very gendered practice, with steps, costuming and choreography being assigned to genders. i don't think this is an inherently bad thing: we like to mark ourselves. but what happens when we don't fit the gender categories in a type of dance? how do we navigate that?