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@notcapnamerica @NikkiNic9384 @olesoul57_2 That is wild to me. Especially as the only college grad in my family unit - bless their hearts, but all my worst career advice came from my parents who didn't understand the professional world I was navigating. I can't imagine them interviewing WITH me.

@NikkiNic9384 @olesoul57_2 There was a study that came out recently that said 25% of employers report that recent college grads have brought their parents into the job interview with them. Not drove them there, not sat in the lobby, CAME INTO THE ACTUAL INTERVIEW

My friend just started working at the housing office of a college. She said the parents call asking who’s going to help their child with doing their laundry, cooking, cleaning their room, getting up for class etc

@sitcomcrave Ugh this upset me so much too! But lowkey from a writing perspective I appreciate AE's willingness to make characters we love look bad. This is real - people we love and admire can disappoint us in small, selfish ways.

okay so this abbott elementary scene where barbara and melissa kicked janine out their table pissed me off so much ngl she picked their table because she thought it'd be a safe space for her to deal with the breakup omg 🥹🥺💔

@RemiLane5 @ALongwood19953 @a_quietlife_ @udonda_k Why do you assume she doesn't want to make him happy too? I'm just stating my limits and icks in partnership - a person who finds happiness in making the other happyis important. To me, that's reciprocal behaviors.

@ALongwood19953 @quietmind641 @a_quietlife_ @udonda_k Yea he’s crazy for saying one side should make it a focus to make the other side happy, but that doesn’t have to happen vice versa

It's deeper than that. Had Janine agreed to drive, it would set the tone for their relationship going forward. Meaning she'd have to constantly compromise her own happiness for Gregory's unreasonable comfort.

@ALongwood19953 @a_quietlife_ @udonda_k I think this trigger is stemming from toxic masculinity bc these are all examples of the inequality that emerges from patriarchy and how it hurts EVERYONE. I also stated previously enough is enough in my last response to you - pls leave my mentions alone.

@quietmind641 @a_quietlife_ @udonda_k Sorry “Where women are socialized from a young age to accomodate others.” — That’s triggering af “Don’t hit her back, because she’s a girl” “Let her play with ALL your toys, but you can’t play with hers because the’re just for girls” “Watch her back from men while y’all are out”

@ALongwood19953 @udonda_k Ok - enough - I stated before we're gonna have to agree to disagree. We disagree here. That's just what it is.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k His entire argument was “spending money on a flight, when they could drive was irresponsible”. That’s why her buying the tickets didn’t resolve anything and she ended up feeling offended after she bought them.

@bambiHaller @udonda_k I think she tried to address what she thought made the flights a problem - the money issue - his response in that was a turnoff. To me. That's okay if you disagree, these are my limits, not yours.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k I don’t think it’s a healthy relationship if the basis of the relationship is to ensure only 1 partners happiness tho. That’s just a terrible way to live

@Beannthh @udonda_k Free will is central to life, of course. But socialization is deeply embedded in people's behaviors, often in unseen ways. We're just gonna have to agree to disagree on this one. I was stating my limits, not yours.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k Because being socialized doesn’t mean shit, you have autonomy and you can choose to adhere to it or not… you’re not dolls that have no control over what they do

@a_quietlife_ @ALongwood19953 @udonda_k We live in an unequal world where women are socialized from a young age to accomodate others. To me, this is a priority in a partner. Ok if its not to you! We're just gonna have to disagree on this matter.

@quietmind641 @ALongwood19953 @udonda_k lol but not the women, only the men need to make their partners happy

@Beannthh @udonda_k We live in an unequal world where women are socialized from a young age to accomodate others. To me, this is a priority in a partner. Ok if its not to you!

@quietmind641 @udonda_k Off course… always has to be the man huh

@ALongwood19953 @udonda_k Unless I'm missed it did he directly state he hated flying? I thought it was mainly positioned as a money issue, which she tried to address by covering the costs. I think we need to agree to disagree - we feel differently on this matter and thats okay.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k That’s like one person saying they hate the color red and the other going out, buying a red shirt they personally LOVE and then asking the other person’s opinion on it. Then getting upset because they said they don’t like it because it’s red.

@TurkybuttBuster @ALongwood19953 @udonda_k I think she tried by taking on the costs of the flights herself bc he positioned it as a money issue.

@quietmind641 @ALongwood19953 @udonda_k Why couldn’t she make him happy then?

@ALongwood19953 @udonda_k I didn't appreciate his attitude toward her bc he positioned his problem as a money issue so she took on the cost. His attitude in response was an ick, to me. Also - that was his girl - she deserves softness from her man, even when they disagree.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k As for belittling her, he stated his perspective BEFORE she bought the tickets - that was supposed to change AFTER she bought them? How was he supposed to soften that more than he did?

@ALongwood19953 @udonda_k I'm going to respectfully disagree bc I stated these are my limits, not yours. I think making your partner happy when you can should a source of happiness. To me.

@quietmind641 @udonda_k That’s a dangerous precedence. A real relationship isn’t solely reliant on one partner’s happiness. They both should have traveled by their preferred methods. At that point there’s really nothing to be upset over.

@camprjj Honestly!! The way Gregory played in her Face I’d LOVE to see this turnabout. Janine deserves to be spoiled not tolerated at most / belittled at worst. Let Gregory see how it’s done from the sidelines while he atones.

although i’m sad janine and gregory broke up now her and manny can finally get together for a season before she takes gregory back….walk with me yall. #abbottelementary

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@user_300715 Yay! PLS make that doggy Anya so we can see Ilya crash out over their shared-custody puppy meeting a potential new doggy stepdad

I will make a mini smau out of this cuz this got so many views??? I’m currently not home so it might take 1/2 days sorry

@user_300715 Let not ignore the amazing and hilarious angst of that adorable doggy being ANYA bc Shane and Ilya share custody 👀

#hollanov smau where Ilya and Shane are exes and Shane randomly posts another man and some thirst traps on his ig story

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i think i need hollanov au where they're exes and shane hard launches another man on his ig stories now............