Jason
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Today I was explaining to my daughter why we were going to watch her brother’s football match. She wasn’t all that excited about it.
I told her: it’s easy to get used to things happening around us and for us. That’s okay sometimes. But real life is about showing up for each other too. Her brother has been handling so much on his own lately, and that’s very brave of him. The least we can do is be there for him.
Giving your time and attention to someone you love shouldn’t feel like an effort. It should feel like what family is for.
At the end of the day, what’s the point of a life lived only for yourself?
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Wesley Snipes in Demolition Man (1993) understood exactly what movie he was in and decided to have the time of his life. Simon Phoenix is basically pure unhinged charisma from start to finish.
cinesthetic.@TheCinesthetic
What’s a movie where the villain was way more interesting than the hero?
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Keanu Reeves says Patrick Swayze really did parachute scene himself in Point Break.
“He did all those flips in the sky."
“Production gave him a cease-and-desist. Because he kept jumping and they're like, 'No, we're making a movie, you can't just go jump.”
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If you want to be deep, stop being shallow.
Seeking real, honest connection feels alienating at times, because often I feel many people are capable of going deep but choose not to. They are aloof, cold even, and I can’t blame them sometimes. We all have our skills, baggage, and inhibitions.
I’ve always been direct and honest and that can be disconcerting for people who have performed for so long. Saying the quiet parts out loud can make some people uncomfortable who cannot yet face those truths.
Connection is a heart based practice. You can’t pick people with your head and assume your relationship will go deep to the core. They may look good on paper, but people are more than the sum of their parts and those pieces don’t make a person, let alone guarantee any actual bond beyond acquaintance over common threads of discourse.
You can’t heal heart based wounds with your mind, either. You need to open your heart, which can mean facing your shadow parts, the parts you don’t want to face. If you haven’t done this before, it may mean you put down your phone and say ‘I felt really lonely today,’ or ‘the way you spoke to me yesterday hurt my feelings’, or ‘I don’t know what to say right now but I want to say the right thing. Can you help me try?’
It’s hard. It can be painful. Lonely. But something that bridges the gap is when you can coregulate because you decided to trust someone and they imperfectly attempt to connect, to accept your vulnerable bid for connection and heck, even get to share and be vulnerable, too.
But you have to start by being really fucking honest. Start with yourself. We all lie to ourselves or allow our self-defeating thoughts to win. Observe this. Watch your thoughts like a third party; a hawk. Otherwise another year will have passed and you will have been an NPC in your own life on a quest for peace you did nothing to earn, only fled anything resembling conflict in the false assumption it could not heal you or would be too much effort.
Good things sometimes require effort. What is more important than accepting yourself and loving yourself, showing compassion so you can also offer it to others? Put on the oxygen mask and ensure you can breathe so you can choose better people, those reflective of your higher self and not your karmic wounding.
I see a veil of fake all around, maybe because I’m on this journey to know myself and heal my wounds as best I can so I can live the life I know I’m meant to. Authenticity requires some vulnerability and risk. You don’t need to bleed out on everyone or externalize your process to connect.
Take a risk. Or if you can’t but they can, do them the honour of acknowledging how much it took to be vulnerable in a world that can discard you for so much less in its own fear of revealing ‘weakness’. You might make a true friend.
If any of this resonated, know that I write it as a flawed person with her own desire to rise up from the ashes. Learning and growing is a lifetime task I feel privileged to take on.
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I wish I tweeted everything on my mind. But I'll admit it... I'm a chicken. I'm just not sure y'all can handle the truth.
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