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I absolutely still feel like the same person who didn't understand the other kids at preschool.

@Eric_Erins Red hot ranch has a great burger and fries tho. Cash only.

@Eric_Erins You really are an ascetic

People always ask me for restaurant reccomendations and I just don’t eat out like that. What’s a good restaurant in Chicago? The Billy Goat? Idk

@literally_chad Problem solving skills #1

Who is out there seeking parental traits?

new developments

@seashell_luvr What is community is that a West Coast thing

If you are an anomaly, it’s important you find at least one person, preferably more, who is also anomalous in the way that is on your wavelength. And to surround yourself with the ideas and creations of other anomalies that you resonate with. And anomalies of BOTH genders, so you do not develop a complex on this. Otherwise you are very much at risk of a narcissistic worldview. Being in community with other anomalies you relate to is ideal. It keeps you grounded, challenged, and in touch with reality through mutual recognition. It allows you to take joy in shared experience and wisdom. Isolation, while not ideal, is at least a more honest state, it may be lonely, but at least it only distances yourself from people rather than distorting them. The real danger lies in elevating yourself above others, seeing people as “sheep” or “NPCs.” That is where you slip into a narcissistic distortion, mistaking difference for superiority and forgetting the path we all share as human beings on spiritual journeys. A narcissistic worldview, once it takes hold, begins to orient itself around separation. It scans for difference, sharpens it, and elevates itself, taking smug satisfaction in being the only one, the exception, the outlier. Uniqueness becomes something to defend and prove, rather than something to share or find. Other people are no longer encountered as full realities, but as contrasts, backdrops that make the self as a god feel more distinct. A healthier orientation still recognizes difference, but it isn’t threatened by sameness. It actively wants to find resonance. It looks for the points of overlap, the unexpected familiarity, the ways in which even very different people carry something recognizable and human. It WANTS to find someone who can relate to that most special and unique part of themself. Instead of guarding uniqueness as some kind of status symbol, it becomes curious about the uniqueness in others.

@Rusure_ex @dyingscribe Yeah all just conjecture. I just think a lot of guys with gfs are not good looking, they're just really active socially. Like look at any ugly loser on the street and as long as he can't keep his mouth shut he'll have girls to call on.

@raspberryjauy @dyingscribe Him having a girlfriend means it is overwhelmingly likely he is good looking. His shower makes me think he probably is anti-social if anything. It's conjecture either way though.

You don’t have a girlfriend but a man lives like this and has one Never blackpill

@Rusure_ex @dyingscribe He's probably not good looking, just social

@dyingscribe "Never blackpill" You just showed me the most blackpilling thing imaginable. I want to show anyone who says "just shower bro" this. You can literally shower in absolute squalor and get away with it if you are good looking.

Knix underwear really helps in the Denial stage of your period not being over yet

Ummmm does anyone want to cuddle and not have sex? platonically.

@aimeeterese She looks jewish and he looks gay

Why do people post this stuff? Why are you so shocked that your wife is a good wife and mom? You think banging a couple of guys in her early 20s was going to break her for life? It’s all so tawdry and tedious.

@GambelerQuail It is very hard not to live a life of isolation. What these sorts seek is a literal answer to "places to meet people" because their own attempts are failing to yield connections, friendships, anything.

Yeah I think the biggest problem is that they should already be doing these things. They should already have places to meet people. You can’t just live your life in isolation and then come out of your bunker to find a mate like you’re in Fallout or something

I want to feel safe and I want to love.

@kenzietuff My experience of church is rather hostile to young men, especially white. Just more libshit.

Man posts in local Facebook group, moving to area. Asks which Catholic parishes have thriving community, would be best for single man to attend- “is successful + seeking wife soon” + same faith is priority. Entire comment section berating him. “Church isn’t for dating!”

@Fredward3948576 Never believe the lies You are worthless You are expendable No one is coming to save you No one is dreaming of you at night Unconditional Love isn’t real Conditional Love isn’t real either (for you) Keep self isolating because everyone rejects you anyways

Went to church today. They didn't actually talk about God all that much.

annihilate everything that exists

I apologize, but I'm going to dip into some dating discourse. I never talk about "the apps," but after years of seeing men complain about how easy it is for women to get "matches," and women complain about how hard it is to find a man who will commit, I think they're both describing the same problem from opposite ends. I've been thinking about this for months. men who are chronically single and women who never are—what do they have in common? I think the crux is: scarcity mindset leads to scarcely compatible pairings. to speak for myself, I've found it hard to stay single, and frequently dated men who'd never been in a relationship before. I didn't intentionally seek out inexperienced men, but over and over again I found myself in the role of "first girlfriend." hmmm! everyone in this pool of desperation has such low self-esteem that they will settle for almost anything. the chronically single man's self-worth has been eroded by years of rejection or feeling invisible. the never single woman's self-worth is defined by being chosen, doesn't matter by whom. the pairings look complementary from the inside: - his inexperience feels like a blank slate to her—she will be the patient one, the one who can teach him to love her the way she's always wanted, without comparison. - her willingness to date him feels like a lifeboat to him—he doesn't ask himself whether he wants her back, he just feels relieved. both are misreading desperation as devotion, not entering the relationship from a place of choice. the never-single woman thinks this time it'll be different. her experience is an asset, she's done so much inner work, now she has the tools to make this relationship succeed. but experience picking at the same wound is not the same thing as growth. the always-single man thinks this might be his only chance so he has to take it. he is overwhelmed by the relationship—the intimacy, the expectations, everything—and he always wonders if it's actually right. he has little if nothing to compare it to. so he stays, but never fully commits. this is how you get those long, drawn-out "dating" relationships where the woman is asking for commitment and progress and the man "isn't sure." they're together out of mutual scarcity and fear—she's terrified of sunk cost, he's terrified of being trapped. she stays because leaving means admitting she wasted years, again. he stays because he doesn't believe anything better exists for him. neither stays because the relationship is actually good. and in modern dating, it's normal to live together for years before you're "sure." it's normal because many people have entered lukewarm relationships and are scared to leave because they don't want to be alone. we hear countless stories of 27-35-year-olds in ambivalent 4+ year relationships. then we apply theories like "insecure attachment" to the people in those relationships, never considering that those relationships may actually be legitimately insecure. two sides of the same coin. scarcity mindset on both sides.

@privxus Huge

Legs, back and arms.

Living without love or affection does drive you insane, and over time degrades your humanity. You become a vermin.