Rashida yahya

When I eventually get to do a phd , this would be a strong case study on the lack of adequate and effective urban public conveniences.

@hadizel Being in polygamy, apart from small issues mostly from sheer jealousy, it’s actually more beneficial to women than men , you get more time to chase whatever fancies you. Highly recommended for career women

A few days ago, the hot topic on social media was polygamy. Allow me to add my two cents (two kobos?) to the discourse. There are several types of marriages that are being practised around the world. These include monogamy (one man, one wife), polygyny (one man, two or more wives) and polyandry (one woman, two or more husbands). Though polyandry exists, it is rare. All these marriages are valid depending on the environment. And who is to say that one is superior to the other? After all, even same-sex marriages are legitimate in some places. In Nigeria, we practise monogamy and polygyny. I will subsequently refer to polygyny as polygamy because that’s what we are used to calling it. My husband was raised in a polygamous family, while I, by contrast, grew up in a monogamous one. When we agreed to get married, I envisaged a monogamous marriage, even though the subject was never discussed. Now I find myself in a polygamous marriage, not by choice initially, but subsequently by choice. I say ‘not by choice initially’ because the transformation of our marriage from a monogamous one to a polygamous one was my husband’s choice and not mine. I say ‘subsequently by choice’ because deciding to remain in the marriage was my choice and nobody else’s. We got married under Islamic law and under that law, a woman reserves the right to opt out of a marriage, even without giving a reason. One condition, though, is that she must return the dowry that was paid to her. (Could that have influenced my decision to stay? Because, frankly, by that time, I don chop my dowry clean mouth. LOL). Anyway, jokes apart, it is often said that ‘when life gives you lemons you make lemonade’ and that’s what I’ve tried to do. I decided to look at the good side of things. Let me list below some of the advantages of polygamy for a first wife: · You’ll have more time to focus on your career, your interests and do what you’ve always wanted to do. · You’ll have more time for your children. · If you, like me, are of the same age as your husband, and you’ve both started experiencing the signs of old age, you won’t be expected to rub his back. Because… who will rub yours? · The wahala of In-laws will be divided and shared. By contrast however, apart from one thing, I cannot think of any advantage of polygamy for a man. But then again, I understand that that one thing is very important. Really, at the end of the day, it is: ‘To Each His Own’. Let’s keep striving to be happy. We only have one life to live.

@AyshaHaydarh Haven’t watched the movie but this is the first opposite take I have come across . Interesting

It’s like I am the only person having a different opinion 😭😭,in my opinion he did not offend her,yes he became distant and added wife but he was still nice to her,her behavior of nagging constantly,lack of self love and being overly emotional was what made him dislike her….

The day I finish the Quran I’ll cry a river. May Allah make this possible for me 🥹

@whoisningi @Wanzaaam Wallahi , one of the reasons I chose patience over reacting to been offended is mostly because I remember Allah has done more than enough for me.

i have said it before, and i will say it again, 80 to 90% of what we have is because of a fate that's beyond our control, it could all change in the blink of an eye stuff like this makes me say Alhamdulillah, reflect, and try to help or change the situation of the person that reminded me to be humble and thankful once again

Found out from a mid that they settle for a seemingly uglier person with low self esteem that would fawn over them and thank god for having them while they tolerate all manners of BS.

Why are the kebbi girls not trending.. #BringBackOurKebbiGirls Please Rt and tweet.. We will not be silenced..

"About 26 girls were abducted; 2 escaped, meaning now abducted students are 24. The two students who escaped, Salma and Hauwa’u Imam, are back and safe." - Commissioner for Basic and Secondary Education, Halima Bande, Kebbi State.

I was feeling quite aggrieved and went out for some errands , passed through 2 graveyards and I thought of how those laying in must have been sad at some point but are no more today. It ends with death. Komai mai wuce Wa ne . Allah ya sa mu cika da imani .

@MA_Iliasu Masha Allah, I am so happy for you . I randomly see your tweet and is in awe of your passion for the grassroots, education, culture etc may this be a step towards achieving your dreams. Ameen

I received my Olympiad-winning certificate, the prize for which is a Russian Government Scholarship for postgraduate studies in Economics at DSTU 🙏🏾🎉

@AYNgidda And she would loathe you for it

You need a very good dose of "misogyny" to be a good man. Else zaka zama sokon banza.

@Mal_Baffa Been wanting to update,I folded .

@rhashider I no see your message again😂 I assumed we have a favorable resolution😂

I would try this when my results come out sha 😂😂😂

@Mal_Baffa Hmm, no to be related to the situation they pain pass . Vex go just dey catch you

@rhashider Wasu ai Allah ya rubuta masu wahala a duniya😭

Find feminist wey go chew you spit out, if you survive am mek we go use your spoilt life cash out😂

@emtukur Dan Allah I want to ask you questions as regards addini

Wow Rashford!

@Mal_Baffa To be truly virtuous in character one must be tested by harsh treatment, one can’t be deemed good if his actions are resultant to how he is treated, ultimately we are tested by both our strength and weaknesses and our noble characters too mostly become a burden.

Why do good people often get the short end of the stick? Why does sincerity invite mockery and exploitation instead of respect? If being good and decent leads to suffering, is it really worth it?

To grow and live in the best way, and most importantly in service to Allah (SWT) through delivery of rights and obligations. To act not by influence of others but by the sunnah of our nabiyyi (SAW) To remain grateful in constant obedience to the most high.

@Mal_Baffa Heard a staff saying upgrade su keyi since Monday

Dem wan mek we start dey beg😂

@Mal_Baffa Even scarier is the sense of entitlement with little or no effort towards making parents lives easier.

Something that scares me while interacting with people my age and younger is their perception of duty to parents. Even among those that have a fairly decent relationship with their parents don’t really internationalize that taking care of your parents is an obligation.