Rijard
657 posts
Rijard
@rijardb
Travelling scientist and dancer; HPC, optimization, algorithms. Contra caller.
Katılım Şubat 2014
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sending out sooo many invites to sooooo many people who have expressed moderate interest AT BEST in being my friend. quadruple texting people who've literally never replied to any of my other texts. cringemaxxing. i don't care if u feel lukewarm abt me im INVITING YOU TO MY THING
kasra@kasratweets
appreciating again that 99% of making & keeping friends is just messaging people unabashedly we've only met once? idgaf I'm inviting you to my thing haven't spoken in 3 years? idgaf I'm inviting you to my thing didn't respond to my last text? idgaf I'm inviting you to my thing
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@Romy_Holland If you haven't read Crib Sheets (and Expecting Better) by Emily Oster, you'd probably appreciate it: cold, hard RCTs on child rearing.
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it’s strange how sleep training opponents always make the exact same claim that it’s bad because it “traumatizes your baby into learning that their cries will be ignored.”
this is plainly testable—it would be profoundly apparent if it were true. post-ferber babies would cry way less than other babies or maybe not at all. they’d show all sorts of signs of trauma like failure to respond to caregivers, poor weight gain, etc.
but nothing like this happens. the only change is that they happily fall asleep independently. my baby still cries at 4am for food many nights, and we feed him. he cries when he’s bored or tired or wants affection. he knows he’ll quickly get what he wants and that crying is a highly effective way to communicate.
if a few minutes of crying were traumatizing, things like cars and baths would be extremely bad for many babies. but nobody claims that the 20 minute drive to the grocery store is gonna turn your kid into a russian orphanage trauma case.
the most frustrating part of mom discourse is that it feels like there’s a huge group of people just saying things that they’ve heard other people say and that feel good to repeat, but they aren’t thinking about what these things really mean. a bunch of stuff is being memed into existence and it just isn’t true, and it’s damaging to the vulnerable parents who desperately want to do the right thing and happen to hear this bad advice.
Romy@Romy_Holland
i see ppl talking about their babies waking up hourly at like 10 months. my baby went from doing this and acting like his crib was a vat of snakes to smiling and babbling happily every time we plop him in his crib because of one week of ferber. the discourse around ferber traumatizing kids is a lie and is outright ruining ppl’s lives. my baby loves going to sleep now. his total crying per day was reduced by *hours* and my sanity fully restored. you’re not doing your kid any favors by not letting them learn self-soothing.
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@AlexKontorovich My recollection is that UC Berkeley took down a large number of CS267 lectures from YouTube for lack of subtitles or a similar reason.
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There’s a new law about to take effect around WCAG (Web Content Accessibility Guidelines). As I understand it, if you’re at a public university and post PDF notes or lecture videos without meeting both a stringent and unclear set of accessibility requirements, you can be sued. So universities are, understandably, going frantic trying to comply.
This is the completely wrong way to go about fixing a real problem for people with disabilities. The obvious outcome is that instructors like me will stop posting “bonus” materials -- recordings, handwritten notes, extra explanations -- and just stick to lecturing on the blackboard. But then we all lose.
A better approach would be to let instructors keep sharing what helps students, and have institutions (e.g. Disability Services Offices) step in to provide accessible versions when needed. With modern tools (AI), that’s increasingly feasible and not too costly. Instead, we're creating a system where everybody loses.
Am I missing something?
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@maebichka I've had a lot of PT for various joints over time, but the most effective thing I've done is weightlifting: getting stronger and regularly moving antagonists. PT tends to treat individual problems, but the interconnection of the body reward an integrated movement practice.
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i once again have low back pain so acute that it hurts when i sneeze. once it was so bad for a few days i couldn't stand upright or walk at a normal pace
but even default state is like 3-4/10 pain, stiff/can't bend
i want to HIRE someone, any modalities (incl woo) u recommend?
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Sending kids early to daycare means they'll be sick all the time, but that's completely offset by their being less sick when they go to elementary school
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@Romy_Holland I think this is a big takeaway from Emily Oster's Cribsheets book and others in that series: RCTs generally show that many of the problems parents face either resolve on their own or the different approaches that a parent might take lead to similar, indistinguishable outcomes.
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baby hated baths. screamed like we were dipping him in a vat of acid. i adjusted every variable to no avail, and i finally just started taking baths with him. tried an independent bath again a couple weeks ago and he loved it. kicked and splashed like crazy, no crying.
baby hated the car. would never make it more than 5-10 min without screaming even if i sat in the back with him. we went on a 3.5 hour trip last weekend and he was fine. took the longest nap he’s had in months. liked looking out the window.
i have friends who swear by the special swaddle, the expensive probiotic drops, the dairy-free diet. in actuality it’s all just time, and ppl get attached to whatever they tried right before the kid happened to level up. the truth is that there’s mostly nothing to be done but to wait.
Loquitur Ponte Sublicio@loquitur_ponte
One thing people often don't realize with their first kid, which can drive dismay and even regret in early months, is the overwhelming temporariness of all your problems. Baby's emotional regulation is non existent or completely counterproductive? Yeah key parts of the brain couldn't fit through the birth canal, give it a few months. Needs sleep but wont sleep? Yeah key parts of the brain... needs to feed but doesnt know how? Say it with me again. And so forth. If your baby cuddles up to you and feels like a part of your soul in natural union as you each fall into your intended roles that's great and magical for you and all that but if it feels like a severely dysfunctional broken thing that cannot possibly carry the tools to survive even in a highly favorable environment and actively undermines even the most baseline necessary efforts to help it... it is also that. Humans arent like other animals, space constraints are a bitch. Nature isnt a beautiful harmony who gives you what you need, shes a penny counting miser who gives you exactly what's worth paying for and not a cent more and thinks in bulk terms and macro trends. But it's fine. They grow every day and whatever the behavior you just cant bear anymore one day it will just stop. And until then dont assume there's some magic song or ritual that will fix it, nature doesn't think you are entitled to riddles with answers if they're expensive to write. Sometimes it's just annoying for a bit. Walk away, hand them off, read a book, watch youtube on your phone, whatever. You aren't being graded as a parent. Attachment isnt real. Missing brain is coming. This thing will pass.
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@Romy_Holland @univrsw3th4rt It is clearly one of the best locations for it: other-worldly beauty that's likely to persist.
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i got a congratulatory text that managed to be judgy about the location of our proposal ☺️
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@thee_SACK loopearplugs.com - It doesn't solve the problem of wanting to be able to talk to people, but all of the dancers that I know use these, myself included, and they do their job well.
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Can we talk about how the volume of the dj at a lot of bars is just straight up too loud? I feel like I need to start bringing earplugs to bars
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@CraigBrockie And the casual story for EBV is also strong: science.org/doi/10.1126/sc…
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Scientists just cracked the multiple sclerosis code after decades of searching.
Two specific gut bacteria are triggering the disease, and they've proven it using identical twins and mice.
This changes everything we know about MS:
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📜 Substacks I'd bankroll like a Renaissance cardinal with a printing press if I were rich:
A policy programme for beautifying cities: trees, fountains, eccentrism, mosaics, art, and more
Side by side comparisons of the administrative, financial and regulatory hurdles to creating businesses in the US and Europe
Here's why you can deregulate sclerotic environmental laws AND reduce emissions/pollution
Homelessness, addiction, and mental health: a Progress-pilled agenda
Corporate Memphis, Bored Ape, and boring minimalism: why does the tech world lack taste?
The myth of onshoring, and why ignoring economics isn't the solution to national security concerns
The 100 most impactful things Europe should do to avoid begging for an IMF bailout and Russian invasion in the next decade
Collection of cool businesses, things, objects, buildings that would be illegal to do today or sell in the West
Why GovTech never really took off, and why you should care
Crime reduction: overlooked success stories, the role of technology, and why social cohesion matters
Soft power: an underrated and neglected force
Why Nations Fail: 2 Fast 2 Furious. Case studies of successful institutions today
We have manufacturing at home: the wonderful world of modular synthesizers
Barriers to entry: how photography at scale has changed the world, and why you should cry about slop less
Why post-woke shouldn't be a slippery slope to pre-fash: the golden rule isn't cringe, acktchually
Why do all cars look the same? Why does everything converge towards the average? An investigation.
An exploration of lesser known musical subgenres across the world: from kwaito to concrète (10 part series)
Technosolutionism and its discontents: shortcuts and bandaids are good and your obsession over root causes is paralysing you
The failures and successes of foreign aid and humanitarian assistance: the secret third way that is neither blobby NGO rent seeking nor You Can Just Be Evil mentality
Hayek, AGI, costs, and knowledge: internalizing the implications of central planning once and for all
Liberal democracy was a huge success: resisting the lure of political doomerism and autocratic regression
Jagged intelligence: the diverse and unusual ways in which human genius manifests itself
Conflict and reconciliation: case studies of successful post-war reconstruction of norms, peacemaking 101
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If you have a view of the sky, the Geminids meteor shower peaks tonight: globalmeteornetwork.org/flux/
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can someone send me this journal article please?
Moosa@questmoosa
L-theanine is a mast cell stabilizer that can reduce anaphylactic shock (by reducing histamine synthesis). Doses for anxiety tend to be around 200 mg Very powerful supplement.
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@alekslovesdata @chrislakin Shouldn't you have fairly strong priors on any individual match not working? Even at 50:50, which seems high, 12.5% of the time you'd expect the result you've got. Keep trying; even if it didn't work, I'm sure your friends appreciate the help.
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@chrislakin I keep making the same mistake. The last 3 matches that I've tried to make, the woman is interested, but the guy doesn't reciprocate. Since it's 3 in a row I'm worried I'm doing something wrong with my matchmaking!
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@dundereloise The illusion of amenities is cheap; the reality, expensive?
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Standard hotel amenities are so weird. I don't use a little tub of Q-tips, or a standalone alarm, or an ice bucket, or a TV, or the 7 extra towels, or a hair dryer. Where is the _toothpaste_?
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@dundereloise I recommend setting your default to Remi Geffroy for evening rides: youtu.be/ZrnNAOc82iU?si…
YouTube
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waymocore: that genre of tasteful twinkling elevator lo-fi Waymo plays on the ride
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if you were experiencing direction, a loving romantic partnership, a healthy family, living in community with your friends at a location you call home
what would you find yourself doing?
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