Ruky Bello

My favourite name is Tèmítáyọ̀. It means “mine is worthy of joy”. My dad gave me that name and it was very intentional. He had a tragic accident that almost got his legs amputated just before I was born. It took God’s grace through one healthcare worker to avert the

You can hire maids, a driver, but you can never outsource parenting. It’s draining!! So before you let sweet nonsense tickle your belly, remember that you are choosing a partner in parenting too. If they leave it to you alone to handle—married or divorced, it’s like slow death

Having people walk on egg shells because of your anger is a form of emotional abuse.

Denmark is investing $83,754,486 in textbooks and turning away from its digital-first approach to education. This follows research showing that screens reduce concentration, impact mental health, and hurt student performance. Yet another dynamic to the EdTech debate.

This is how a child loses trust in their parents; - Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed. - Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked. - Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard. - Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic. - Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else. - Achieves something. Parents barely look up. - Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone. - Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest. - Starts hiding things. - No quality time. Only correction. - No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached. - No listening without an agenda. - No apology when the parent is wrong. - No curiosity about who the child actually is. - Child raises themselves emotionally. - Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible. - Calls home out of obligation, not love. - Becomes a stranger who shares blood. And the parent wonders why their child never opens up. To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this; - Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk. - Ask questions about their world without judging the answers. - Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything. - Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve. - Make home the safest place they know. - Listen to understand, not to respond. - Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones. - Tell them you love them without them having to earn it. - Be the person they run to, not from. NON-NEGOTIABLE.

I am angry today. And I am going to tell you why. I walked into a supermarket yesterday. Just to buy water. And I stood in the snack aisle for five minutes looking at what Nigerian parents are feeding their children. Every single item on that shelf was wheat flour, sugar, seed oil, and artificial flavouring. Every. Single. One. Biscuits? Wheat, sugar, vegetable oil. Chin chin? Wheat, sugar, vegetable oil. Packaged cakes? Wheat, sugar, vegetable oil. Fruit drinks? Sugar water with a picture of an orange on the box. Cereals? Sugar coated in more sugar and sprayed with synthetic vitamins so they can print “fortified” on the front. And the prices? A family spending 2,000 a day on snacks is spending 60,000 a month on food that is actively destroying their children’s metabolic health. For that same 60,000, you could buy eggs, fish, vegetables, yam, plantain, palm oil, and coconut oil. Real food. The kind that builds brains, bones, and immune systems instead of diabetes at 30. The food industry does not care about your child’s health. It cares about repeat purchases. And the easiest way to guarantee repeat purchases is to make food addictive. Sugar does that. MSG does that. Artificial flavouring does that. Your child is not choosing these foods. They are being engineered to crave them. And you are paying for the engineering. Read the label. Count the ingredients. If it has more chemicals than food, put it back on the shelf. Your child’s future is worth more than convenience. If you want a clear, practical way to feed your family without the confusion, send a message on WhatsApp: +2349118909688 for a well-structured meal plan. Share this with every parent you know.

Spending time around your kids is not the same as spending time with your kids

If 90% of a child's life is a deep, connected family experience (reading together, conversations, building things, playing outside) and 10% involves screens because life is hard? Not a big deal. The problem isn't screens existing. The problem is when screens gradually replace all immersion in human experience.

@100millionmoni @Teeniiola When you grow up in chaotic environments, peace is alien and boring

@Teeniiola Ma after I gave my babe who’s now my wife a dirty slap, that she stopped behaving like this. Just one slap and it’s almost 6 years now but she keep remembering the slap. Slap wey I give her finish one of her side ear turn red. 😁

Moment between a man and his wife where he stopped him from going to work and complained about how gentle he is and she really wants to see his reaction, he should act like a man. She complained about him being too soft and then this happened. I wasn’t expecting that at the end! 👀

Love is not rare. Sustainable love is. It demands responsibility, self-awareness, discipline, growth. Not everyone is willing to meet that standard.

@Abbas_bnSanusi 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

We are at my parents' place for Eid, my mom already bought plantain in advance of our coming, but I also came with plantain just to avoid any situation of 'we did not see plantain'. Oju lalakan fin sho ori.

Too many old people who suffered during their youth secretly want younger people to experience the same, so that the younger people can "relate" to their pain. It gets even worse when it happens in a parent-child relationship. A great parent wants their kid to feel free:

Mel Robbins on ghosting: "If an adult gives you the silent treatment, that's an 8-year-old pouting. It's not your job to manage someone else's emotions."

My brain’s processing speed is 🔥🔥 My fingers need to catch up.

Pregnancy is like blind Russian roulette.... You fit run am no issue, you fit try am once and be disabled for life.... I will never understand people who do not take Pregnancy seriously or try to downplay how devastating pregnancy can be, those you are not sick, you are only pregnant set of people. Pregnancy Na better sickness oh.

If you don’t think your wife is playful and fun anymore, you did that to her. Not time. You. Feminine nature is young and playful by default. If you’re not giving her an environment where she can preserve it, you’re stripping her of it.

When you stop being kind to someone as a result of a disagreement or a “fight”, can you say you love them? I’m learning that the test of love is in the uncomfortable moments. Would you still make their coffee the way they like it? Would you still wake them up to pray?

Sometimes, it's resentment Sometimes, it's repulsion Sometimes, it's just emotional fatigue from bearing so much weight and pain. From my observation, women love deeply and hurt deeply. There may be an accumulation of hurts and pain that she felt when they were younger. Hypothetically, let us imagine a young man who got married at 27 to a 24 year old lady. He starts cheating at 30 because money, looks, and strength were on his side, and perhaps his wife had put on some weight after kids. Rather than nurture his wife back to how he met her, he moves on to chasing other girls and does that for 10-15 years, while the woman wallowed in pain raising kids all by herself. Now the man is 45, the lady is 42, and had also progressed in her career and levelled up to a large extent. Man is approaching 50 and suddenly wants companionship and partnership, which he didn't offer when she was dealing with toddlers. On the other hand, some men were faithful, but over ambitious, they were always chasing one personal, ministry, or career goal or another and neglected their wife and kids. Wife bore all the sacrifices to make the marriage stand, literally. At some point, it will get tiring, and she moves on to focus on her kids.

Eid Mubarak lovelies 🤍🤍

The moment a man doesn’t love you anymore. Ahh! Just Forget it. It’s straight-up coldness. I remember one of the divorce cases I handled. This man was so desperate to finalize his divorce. Why? His girlfriend was pregnant and he wanted to marry her ASAP. Once a man doesn’t love you again… Nothing can bring it back. Absolutely nothing!!!

Loving so loudly…..