Saša Harper

You know what, saying “Thank you for your service” Every time you throw away another batch of expired groceries, really takes the edge off the shame & guilt of not having your shit together…

Hot Take: Emo and Pop Punk were mental health support before we knew we were neurodivergent and needed therapy

Your relationship to uncertainty relates to how safe you feel in the present moment. #ADHD

It’s not just because of your brain why you struggle with routine…

Emotional dysregulation isn’t a fixed part of #ADHD, it’s a skill gap.

If you are only motivated by fear of negative consequences you may: -Procrastinate until there is a deadline -People please -Feel lost without external pressure -Struggle with low mood -Struggle with emotional regulation #ADHD

2/2 We learn to self-regulate through emotional attunement, co-regulation and modelling from our caregivers This why coaching and therapeutic spaces are so powerful because they provide the skills you may have missed growing up…

1/2 If you struggle to self-regulate your emotions, time and boundaries It’s probably because you didn’t have anyone who modelled for you… #ADHD

Without addressing this lack of internal safety, ADHDers will be stuck in the chaotic loop of survival patterns These patterns are not due to #ADHD, they are due to being raised in this society with ADHD… It’s time to change the narrative…

Unpopular opinion: Most behaviours attributed to #ADHD are not because we are “chasing the dopamine” but because we are chasing external acceptance, validation or distraction due to a lack of internal safety…

When learning to regulate your nervous system, it’s important to SLOWLY build in familiarity and regularity into your daily life If you have spent your life in chaos, routine and regularity can feel scary or overwhelming Go SLOW #ADHD

Babe, you okay? You’ve hardly touched your dysregulated nervous system

Regulating your nervous system helps you develop a sense of internal safety, confidence and competence. So if you are stuck in the chaos, know that you make sense, and there is a way out! #ADHD

Signs of a dysregulated nervous system: Anxiety Stress Burnout Procrastination Rejection Sensitivity Low Self Esteem #ADHD

Having ADHD is hard Having ADHD & a dysregulated nervous system is hell

And I hope when I get to heaven I get to invite all my friends to a private screening and watch all my life’s bloopers to 1970’s laugh track

I’m now unsubscribing from the word “failure” It’s too heavy for a reframe so I shall hence forth be referring to my “failures” as “bloopers” I can still learn from them but I’m gonna find them funny as-well 🤣 #ADHD

@nonbinaryLoki There is actually more evidence to show that it is cPTSD and when these symptoms improve when treated as such 🙌

@ADH_Dopameme It’s part of “rejection sensitivity dysphoria,” you get reacted to negatively by your peers so many times you start to reject yourself and believe that other ppls negative reactions to you are justified, this leads to depression, anxiety, and low self esteem

Living with ADHD gives many of us what I like to call "Repetitive Shame Injury" Doesn't matter how many times we forget something, do something impulsive or procrastinate on the smallest thing, we often internalise feelings of inadequacy and shame.

@SasaHarper Hey is there any chance you would consider changing your handle? Thanks Saša

PSA It's not high functioning anxiety, it's deeply internalised anxiety It's not high functioning depression, it's deeply internalised depression