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#UzakŞehir I 63. Bölüm 1. Tanıtım “Artık kimse sizi koparamayacak!” ❤️‍🔥 #UzakŞehir sezon finaliyle 1 Haziran Pazartesi 20.00’de #KanalD’de! @ayna_yapim @ayyapim @KanalD

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Ep. 62–63. The golden child Cihan and the scapegoat Boran. Cihan is the golden child within a family with a narcissistic parent (Sadakat): conceited, arrogant and manipulative, who enjoys privileges that others do not (a two-bedroom flat, etc.), fails to see through the narcissist’s facade, obeys his parents and sides with them, but is punished if he disobeys. I discussed the role of the “golden child” and the golden child Cihan here: x.com/aniabi26/statu… When his father Azem died and Boran (the scapegoat) left, it was then, in my opinion, that Cihan was assigned the role of Scapegoat, too, as often happens in real life. And only then did he realise that Boran had been unfairly scapegoated within their family; that is, he had genuinely believed he was superior to his brother and that Boran deserved the treatment, the cruelty and the smear campaigns and ostracism he had suffered at the hands of him and his parents. This is why in ep. 1 we see a different Cihan, a gentler one, who has understood his brother’s good intentions in the video-will in ep. 3. The difference between a golden child like Cihan and a narcissist with a personality disorder (such as Sadakat or Ecmel) is that Cihan has genuine emotions; he suffers, loves and feels remorse, and he knew – and knows – that he is hurting the scapegoat. But for the sake of survival, he chose to side with his parents against the scapegoat. A narcissist like Sadakat knows she is causing harm but feels no remorse, let alone love. She feels emotions only for herself. I do not think Cihan ever expressed his guilt to Boran when he left, even when they spoke on the phone. Scapegoats are sensitive, empathetic and intuitive people; they see through the masks of the narcissistic parent and say so openly. That is why they are bullied in the cruellest way. I talked about scapegoats here: x.com/aniabi26/statu… This is why Cihan feels such deep guilt towards him: for how he had treated him before Azem died. It was not just guilt over falling in love with Alya. When Cihan saw Boran again, he was torn: on the one hand, he was happy, but on the other, he felt uncomfortable because he was in love with Alya. Up until ep. 38, Cihan behaved like a loving golden child brother, but by ep. 39, even before he triggered regression (in ep. 42), he had started treating Boran again as the family scapegoat, as the one who “didn’t understand”, “a problem person”, etc., who “deserved” to be scapegoated because Cihan chose once again to side with his mother (“Our mother and father didn’t treat us differently. They loved us equally”) nor did he realise that for Boran, a year had not passed (because he had been in a coma), and that discovering he was the biological son of another father—and, moreover, despised by the family—is no small matter. And then, the golden child chose to trust his friend, Yalcin, rather than “understand” what Boran was going through. I encourage those Uzak Sehir viewers who genuinely do not know what having a car accident and then falling into a coma for a yearmeans to ask a trusted doctor directly and tell them that, since Boran woke from the coma, nobody recognises him anymore: neither his family nor his dear friend Vurgun, who knew him in his darkest moments. Also ask your trusted doctor what the doctor treating this patient should do with that patient and with his family. The period between an accident and the coma is also very delicate and must be handled with great care because a patient is not fully lucid. Boran’s accident and coma reawakened the resentment and anger he had accumulated and suppressed due to the cruelty he suffered at the hands of his parents and the golden child Cihan. And, upon waking, in addition to the amnesia caused by the trauma (accident + coma), he developed severe emotional dysregulation and had also triggered emotional dissociation. I discussed here what Boran is experiencing upon waking: x.com/aniabi26/statu… x.com/aniabi26/statu… But Yalcin deliberately chose not to treat him and to tell Cihan, Vurgun and Alya that Boran was fine. He lied. Just as he lied to Cihan in ep. 38, when Boran got out of bed for the first time, telling Cihan not to touch or support him, because Yalcin’s intention was to make Boran fall to the ground, hurt him further, and make Cihan feel guilty too. Cihan’s instinct had picked up on this in ep. 38 when Cihan said angrily to Yalcin: “How can you ‘leave him alone?! He can’t stand up on his own!” And, indeed, shortly afterwards Boran fainted on the stairs, hitting his head. From ep. 39 onwards, Cihan chose to trust Yalcin (and Dr Alya) and, indeed, decided to promote him within his hospital, rather than consulting another doctor to understand what was wrong with Boran. Why did he do that? Because, as Gulizar reminds us in ep. 41 by quoting “The Little Prince”, Cihan stopped and “judged” Boran and Yalcin solely on their outward appearance, and no longer looked with his heart. Since he had already harboured anger towards him as a teenager for the way he had treated the scapegoat, that anger resurfaced and made him think, “So, perhaps, I was right to treat him like that… He really was an ungrateful son and the problem in our family…” and “and then, look how he behaves towards Alya and Deniz… Yes, yes. He is my problem and my family’s problem”… as if Boran were not part of it. But Cihan’s body (subconscious, nervous system, etc.) could not cope… because that anger was not just the anger he had built up towards the scapegoat; it was the anger towards himself (the guilt) and the remorse he had suppressed as a defence mechanism so as not to succumb at the time to his own cruelty towards the scapegoat before Azem’s death. And so, his body triggered regression in ep. 42. But, unfortunately, reverting to his old behaviours from before Azem’s death, Cihan treated the scapegoat exactly as he had done when Azem was still alive: he insulted him, scolded him and marginalised him, failing once again to understand what was going on at a psychological/psychosomatic level. Yalcin is one of the Bulgarians. I have been saying this since December 2025. Gulizar has made this clear to us in many ways and across various episodes. In the scene in ep. 62 when Boran is kneeling and Cihan is standing (see photos), it perfectly captures what is happening to the two brothers and their roles: the arrogant and presumptuous golden child (in regression) who despises the scapegoat and looks down on him from his pedestal; the scapegoat, emotionally dysregulated after a year-long coma and years of psychological abuse suffered as a scapegoat within his family at the hands of the golden child who also chose that doctor for him, whilst he is begging him not to hurt him and to spare him suffering and his life. + #UzakŞehir #CihAl @Uzaksehirdizi