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girls will survive abuse, heartbreak, grief, and unspeakable tragedies and still move through the world with kindness and compassion, but one minor inconvenience in a man's childhood and he spends the rest of his life terrorizing and poisoning everyone around him

#SunQian #孙千 💭 “i recently saw a topic online where a girl from an overseas app said she really didn’t understand why some girls don’t get manicures, so i clicked the comments and read...” in the comments some said they drive bulldozers because they need to press a lot of buttons, others say they’re teachers and need to hold chalk, still others say they like horseback riding, and some say they own farms—there are all sorts of professions. i feel like this is exactly what makes women so vibrant and beautiful. we are meant to embrace our diversity, not bound by narrow standards of beauty.”

i think it’s important to make plans for each day or week because having something to look forward to gives us a little excitement to get through the day, so when something bad happens, they won’t mean much, because we knew something good is waiting for us at the end of it.

my therapist told me, "stop assuming people are mad at you. Stop attempting to read people's minds. stop trying to manage the thoughts and emotions of others. let people be in charge of themselves. if they have something to say to you they will and if they don't it is their responsibility not yours. overthinking kills happiness" and that hit me like a brick.

After a certain age, you are no longer the product of your environment or how you were raised. It's a personal choice to live the way you do. At some point, blaming your past becomes a distraction from your future. Healing is your responsibility. Growth is your decision.

My mom’s older brother passed away a few years ago. He was the quiet type. Lived in the same modest house for decades. Wore old flannels. Fixed his own car. No one ever thought of him as “well off.” After he died, we learned he had been buying small life insurance policies over the years. Not for himself. For his nieces and nephews. In his will, he left each of us a payout that would only be released for one thing: education, starting a business, or a down payment on a first home. No speeches. No “remember me” letter. Just paperwork and signatures. Turns out he had also been anonymously paying for one cousin’s trade school tuition when their parents couldn’t afford it. None of us knew. He never posted about helping anyone. Never brought it up at dinner. He just quietly positioned the next generation a few steps ahead. Sometimes love looks like preparation no one sees coming.

aww thank you! saw a tweet somewhere here that suggested philippines x thai GL collab. i agree! we both have so many good talents and equally amazing writers. ✨

Friendly reminder that your cat has no idea what you weigh, how much money you earn, or what you have failed at. They’re just happy they have you 🥹

romanticize ur life. make habits more bearable. do something a little different with your rituals. take up a new hobby. try a different shampoo. eat something you haven’t tried. watch a stupid movie. listen to a new artist. do something. create something. stop consuming.

every time you say "this is new for me" instead of "i'm bad at this," you allow your brain space to learn instead of shut down. that's neuroplasticity in real time.

Burned out ka? Bading ka kasi

I actually don't want to climb any corporate ladders. I don't care about job titles. I don't need accolades. I just want to have income to fund my lifestyle, not be depressed, help other people, and be around good humans.

You are not meant to train a grown person to be empathetic. If you keep having to explain why your feelings matter, the issue is not your delivery, it is their capacity. Empathy is chosen, not forced.

visa applications to countries that colonized yours is a humiliation ritual like least you can do as reparations is let me in i just wanna walk around for like 5 days i wont pillage entire barangays like some people

ofc hwasa couldn’t resist an OST for han sohee and jeon jongseo toxic yuri

I read a quote that said, “You can be the prettiest shade of green, but you’ll never be enough for someone whose favorite color is blue,” and it really stuck with me.

you can't keep postponing things just because you aren't ready. you really have to do it scared.

can’t believe I’m hearing this song in 2026 🥺

Reverse With Me will always be that top tier underrated gl series.

changed my name to a dude's name on the food delivery app because i heard the portion sizes for men are a lot bigger & so i tried it out and um...