Stefan

I’ll go scriptural penultimately. But let me start with saying that this is just insecurity manifesting itself. A car has only one function - to take you from point A to point B. While some cars are luxurious and show class, and people respect you for it, you can’t rely on a car for confidence. Why are you desperate to announce your appearance? Why are we obsessed with appearing valuable than actually creating values? If you can get a car, do get one so your mobility is made easy. It is not to impress strangers. Car is for convenience. I don’t mind not having a car. If we had a good train and bus system, a car would be grossly unnecessary. So many cars on the road is a reflection of a bad transportation network. Having said that, if you put your validation in other people’s hands, you’ll keep going back to them for it. What happens the day your car breaks down? You won’t go out again because you can’t impress strangers? This also happens on social media. You post a picture and you’re desperate for validation - did they comment on my picture? Did they like my picture? Are they fawning over me? Is my ass right? Are my breasts puffed? Are they feeling the boy? That is why when you don’t get the compliments you’re looking for, you fall into depression. Same thing happening with the car, you want to park in front and wind down in traffic so everyone can know you own the car. Do you actually do anything for your own satisfaction? If people don’t validate you, can you experience bliss? That is why Jesus told the woman at the well in John 4, that if you drink from this water, you’ll thirst again. If you keep posting pictures for validation, you’ll thirst again for people’s validation. If you drive car only for others to validate, you’ll thirst again for their validation. Inner peace and satisfaction is not loud. There is a vacuum in life only God can fill. Stop putting your validation in other people’s hand. Love, Peace, and Spaghetti 🍷

Day 2 of finding jobless Mutuals like me that actually engage

Day 1 of finding jobless Mutuals like me that actually engage

I just remembered one of my exes… women are the closest thing to fraud 😭😭

You go first think say you dey suffer as a student, until you graduate 🤣🤣🤣

“Out of anger i lost my virginity to a stranger”😭

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

I spent 4 years paying my younger sister’s school fees. Every single kobo. The day she graduated, she gave the acknowledgement speech and thanked everyone except me. I sat in that hall and felt my soul leave my body 😭. When she got admission, things were tight at home. I had just started my first job. I told our parents, "Don't worry. I’ll handle it." And I did. Every semester. No breaks. There were months I was eating 0-1-0 so her account wouldn't run dry. I never told her. I didn't think I needed to. Graduation day, she looked beautiful. The first graduate in our family. I was prouder of her than I’ve ever been of myself. Then she got the mic. > She thanked God. (Fair). > She thanked our parents. (Expected). > She thanked her friends who kept her sane. > She even thanked her HOD. Then she sat down. My mother looked at me. I smiled and looked away, but the clapping felt like it was happening in a different room. I didn’t say anything that day. Or the week after. But something in how I moved changed. I stopped volunteering. Started waiting to be asked. Started noticing who actually noticed me. People say, "Don’t give to be recognized." I agree to an extent. But there is a thin line between not needing applause and being erased by the person you bled for. That's not humility. That's invisibility. We’re fine now. I brought it up six months later, calmly. She cried, and said she was nervous and blanked. Maybe. Maybe not 🤷 But I learned something either way. Sacrifice without communication creates invisible resentment. Tell people what you are carrying for them. Not to guilt trip them. But because silence makes martyrs, and martyrs make bitter people. This same dynamic shows up in dating every day. You’re playing the provider or the supporter in silence, while your partner thinks you're just an oil money that never runs dry. Stop accepting the bare minimum of gratitude. If they don't see the sacrifice, they won't value the person making it. Has someone ever made you feel invisible in a relationship after everything you did for them? Let’s talk below.👇

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

“Tell me the pettiest thing you’ve ever done, no judgement 😂”

I need you people to go to court so you see how criminal justice works. The court room is open to the public. Go to the criminal court and sit down. Spend like 2 hours there. You’ll laugh but you’ll learn a lot.

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