My aunty died and in her obituary, they wrote the messages of all her sons first before the ones of her daughters. Mind you, her first two children are girls. The last born is still in primary school. But his tribute came first before the tribute of his eldest sister. They made sure 1st son, 2nd son, 3rd son and 4th son were first before 1st child and first daughter. So that tomorrow when Igbo men deceive you as an Igbo woman that you don’t need feminism because women can take chieftaincy titles in Onitsha. Misogyny is in so many different flavors and even the death of your mother will not save you from the disrespect that will be meted put on you because of your gender. The fact that no one will write about the life the woman led before she married is even another one. You’ll be reading an obituary of a woman and all they can describe is how she was a “good wife and mother”. The woman could have been a singer, a tailor, a painter, a dancer etc but her being a good wife and mom will be all you read. But when a man dies, something as irrelevant as how he used canoe to cross into Lagos will be recorded.
