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@Favwontmiss Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who learned to survive what nobody else could see.

"Why are you so anxious?" Because I was diagnosed with the same brain injury as soldiers coming home from war but mine is from someone's daughter.

@Favwontmiss My therapist would probably call it healing. I prefer to call it becoming a very expensive pickle

pickles are literally just cucumbers that went through something and came out more valuable and desired. You got this, you're just fermenting. Soon you'll be a pickle.

@Favwontmiss Compliance is often mistaken for coping. A child who’s terrified of getting something wrong can look remarkably ‘well-behaved.

Ok, so just so you know some of us weren't "high functioning." We were just terrified of being punished or humiliated.

@Favwontmiss Nothing drains me faster than feeling misunderstood. Sometimes it’s not the person it’s the version of me they seem convinced exists.

From one autistic person to another, not wanting to be around someone because you don’t like the way they perceive you is very valid.

@Favwontmiss The post-burnout recovery nap is so real. Your nervous system was recovering long before your brain admitted it needed to.

I should have known I was autistic when I took a three month nap after leaving every job and only worried about money when I literally had no more food

If you got a strong accent i am not mature enough to talk in my regular voice. We both gon be from where you from 😂

@Favwontmiss Seeing yourself in a post can be a reason to learn more or seek an evaluation not a reason to assume you have a diagnosis.

Not every personality trait, preference, or bad day is a sign of neurodivergence. Getting overwhelmed, liking routines, forgetting things, or hating loud noises can be part of being human. When everyone is labeled neurodivergent, the people who truly need support become easier to overlook.

@Favwontmiss “‘He doesn’t look autistic.’ Sorry, he left his official autism costume at home.”

"He doesn't look autistic" my apologies , son perform autism for the lady please.

@Favwontmiss The number of autistic people didn’t suddenly explode. Recognition improved, diagnostic criteria evolved, and many people who would have been misunderstood in the past are finally getting answers.

People panic about “so many autistic kids” today. I’m autistic and wasn’t diagnosed until 28. I was always one of those kids. Back then I was called weird, shy, difficult, awkward, or rude. I was punished for traits no one recognized. We were always here. Now we’re finally being seen.

Parents of college students, please stop emailing professors. For any reason. Yes, even that reason you’re thinking of. Stop.

@Favwontmiss You’re not alone in feeling that way. Sometimes survival looks less like hope and more like simply getting through the day. I hope things get lighter for you.

Does anyone else feel dead inside but keeps living because there’s no other choice?

Your soulmate probably isn’t your type 🤔

@Favwontmiss As a psychologist, I see this often it is not avoidance it is caring so much that it becomes overwhelming

My ADHD friend almost lost a 10-year friendship over an unanswered text. She said I could share this.

Rule no 1. Always date a someone with a good circle of friends. I said what i said.

@Favwontmiss That doesn’t sound like lying for your own benefit. It sounds like meeting him where he is until his nervous system feels safe enough to come back down. Sometimes co-regulation starts with entering their reality, not correcting it.

I have a friend who calls me on occasion when her autistic son is spiraling. I answer the phone and play along. Once I pretended to be someone at a water treatment facility and I reassured the kid nothing bad would happen because he flushed a piece of pasta. Yesterday I pretended to be a wildlife center and agreed to go take care of a deer he saw. I don’t like lying to children, but this feels harmless.

@Favwontmiss I can feel when the house is empty. The energy is different

Tell me you have CPTSD: My husband came into the bathroom when I was showering and I greeted him. He said how did you hear me? I said I heard you coming up the stairs.

We can’t talk about domestic violence without talking about affordable housing. Leaving is a lot harder when there’s nowhere you can afford to go.

@Favwontmiss .Listening is a skill. Relating can be a way of connecting, but if someone asked to be heard, the kindest response is to let their story stay the focus.

Hard pill to swallow: Your neurodivergence and your communication style are not a free pass to center yourself in a conversation where someone explicitly asked to be listened to.

You think you met a calm, chill guy… until you realize he’s actually a dismissive avoidant who can’t communicate like an adult. Have you ever mistaken emotional unavailability for “laid-back”?

@Favwontmiss Yes. It feels like spending every bit of your executive function at work, then getting home with the battery on 1%. The desire is there, but the capacity isn’t.

Does anyone else with ADHD show up fully at work. present, responsive, capable, and then get home and have absolutely nothing left for a single thing that is just for them? Same person but completely different availability.