Highly competent people become more likeable after making a mistake. Average performers become less likeable after the same mistake. Vulnerability is only attractive when it's rare. If it's your default, it reads as incompetence.
Unpopular opinion: do not miss understand chivalry with a guy opening door for you. Anyone can pretend that.
Chivalry is also when he chose to stay quiet instead of lashing out his anger on you. It's also in the way he makes you feel heard, understood and listens.
Why suddenly everything is a trauma response? Me eating in stress is a trauma response, me getting angry is a trauma response, me scrolling is a trauma response, distrustfulness, trusting too much, overwhelm, underwhlem everything
Saans lelu? ya woh bhi trauma response hain?