Ghost Writer ✍️@Prezain_LJ
I think I’ve said this here before. I really don’t like it when a woman overplays her role in my life, even when I’m struggling.
When I was in school, I had a girl named Amarachi. Till today, I still can’t understand the kind of love she had for me. She would do things I never asked for, buy things and cook for me, give me sex anytime I wanted. Even if I called her when it was raining, she would still find a way to make it to my place. Despite all these, I didn’t love her one bit.
The moment a lady takes over my role in a relationship, I tend to check out.
In my final year, I started dating Vivian. Just like Amarachi, she took over the relationship from my hands and carried it single-handedly. She called me constantly. Sometimes more than 20 times a day, and I’m not exaggerating. She made it very obvious that she loved me more, and I hated that. I always tried to talk to her to slow down and allow me do the loving while she reciprocated, but it fell on deaf ears.
We dated till graduation, and after service she got a job with MTN before I did. Without my consent, she would send me money even when I wasn’t broke, though I didn’t have a job at the time. She bought me gifts, prayed for me, and constantly talked about how she couldn’t wait for me to get a job so I could come and marry her. While working in Enugu, she rented a place and asked me to come stay with her so she could help me get a job. She was loving me excessively, and I kept making it clear that she was carrying the relationship on her head alone.
When I finally got a mouth-watering job in Port Harcourt, she was the happiest, but I already knew that was the beginning of the end for us. I started earning well, and anytime she wanted to come visit, I gave one excuse or the other. I also started moving to some top-tier girls I had pending. On one of her birthdays, I sent her a considerable amount of money to compensate. After that, the relationship deteriorated.
Till today, I don’t like a woman doing too much for me. Don’t overplay your role. Don’t make excessive sacrifices or do all those “wife material” things with the hope that it will tie me down and make me end up with you. You’d be surprised how easily I could leave for a woman who didn’t even do a damn thing. Even if you steal your parents’ money to give me, do multiple abortions for me, or put your life on pause for me, I will still leave if I want to. In fact, the more of these extreme things you do, the more likely I am to walk away, because I hate stupidity and foolishness.
