Vanessa Van Edwards

This is for the over thinkers and people pleasers. New amazing episode!! @khloekardashian

I’m careful not to push myself to burnout anymore. Not because I don’t care. Not because I’m less ambitious. But because I finally understand how performance actually works. For years, I thought success meant going harder, saying yes to everything, and powering through exhaustion. But burnout doesn’t make you stronger. It makes you slower, less creative, and less connected to the people around you. Now I pay attention to my energy the same way I pay attention to my goals. The best performers don’t run on empty. They know when to push and when to recover. Learning how to read your own cues, protect your time, and work with your personality instead of against it is a people skill. And yes, you can learn it. How? We teach high performers how to execute better at People School. Check it out in my bio!

I never do this. April is the month of romance inside People School. I’m hosting a 30-Day Dating Challenge to help you feel more confident, more attractive, and more comfortable in your conversations. Every day you’ll practice one small people skill that makes dating easier — from reading cues, to flirting, to knowing exactly what to say. Check it out in my bio and let’s help you find your perfect match!

@tzuggercoach1 Aww, thank you so much!!❤️

@vvanedwards I love your books Vanessa. Keep up the great work. 🙂

I've spent nearly two decades researching my third book. And I am so excited to finally announce... CONVERSATION! 📚 This is the book I wrote for anyone who has ever thought "Why did that conversation feel awkward?" OR "How do some people make talking look so easy?" In this book, I break down the science of great conversations and give you practical tools you can use right away to connect faster, sound more confident, and never run out of things to say. I truly can't wait to share it with you.

@earlyinklings Thank you so much! It’ll be available in October🤗

@vvanedwards Congrats Vanessa!🎉 I'm excited to pick it up. When's the release?

Contempt is one of the most toxic signals you can send without saying a word. It shows up as an eye roll, a smirk, a tight mouth, or that subtle look of superiority. Most people don’t realize they’re doing it, but everyone around them feels it. The moment contempt shows up, trust drops. Connection disappears. People shut down. One of my favorite things we work on inside People School is turning contempt into captivate. Instead of accidentally pushing people away, you learn the exact cues that make people feel safe, respected, and drawn to you. Small shifts in your expressions and body language can completely change how others respond to you. If you want to become more charismatic, more trusted, and more approachable, check out People School in my bio!

Your face leaks your thoughts… even when you think you’re hiding them. 😅 Microexpressions happen in a fraction of a second, but people can still pick up on them. That tiny eye roll, the lip press, the flash of surprise… your face is sending signals before you even realize it. We like to think we’re being neutral, but our faces are constantly giving clues about what we feel, what we think, and how we judge what’s happening around us. The good news is awareness changes everything. When you understand your own facial cues, you can be more intentional with the signals you send. And when you learn to read other people’s cues, conversations suddenly make a lot more sense. People skills are not magic. They are patterns you can learn.

Ever notice that people don't come up and talk to you, even when you're trying to be friendly? 🫣 Most of the time it's not your personality. It's the signals you're sending without realizing it. Small changes make you more approachable. The good news? This stuff is learnable! You don't have to be born charismatic to be easy to talk to. If you want my full system for confidence, conversation, and first impressions, I teach it step by step inside People School. Check in out in my bio!

@newstart_2024 @StevenBartlett Thank you so much for sharing <3

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Vanessa Van Edwards reveals a deceptively simple question that can shatter your assumptions about even your closest friends: "What book, movie, or TV character is most like you, and why?" It sounds like casual dinner-party small talk. But the answer exposes how someone truly sees themselves—their values, struggles, identity. Example: A friend of 6 years—mom of 3, funny, savvy—Vanessa expected a classic TV mom pick. Instead: "Katniss Everdeen from The Hunger Games." Why? "That's how I feel every day—fighting for my life." Suddenly, the mask dropped: she felt scared, lonely, in constant survival mode. Six years of surface connection, unlocked in one honest answer. Raw 85-sec clip below. Vanessa explains why this innocuous question reveals so much—and how it transformed her friendship. One question can rewrite how you see someone. Have you ever asked it? What's your answer—and has anyone's response ever surprised you like that?

@DailyDadEmail Thank you so much for sharing <3

Great parenting advice from @vvanedwards

We asked 6,000 people their biggest non-verbal pet peeve. The winner? 🚨 Standing too close 🚨 Personal space isn’t optional — and it’s not universal. Know your zones. I have a full guide for you here: scienceofpeople.com/proxemics/

Ever asked someone a question… and got a dead-end response? 😬 Here's what to do when the convo fizzles and how to ask more open, curiosity-sparking questions instead. What’s your go-to open question that actually gets people talking? 👇 This was a great question that a student asked me in our monthly live workshop inside People School. I would love to answer your questions too! Register here: scienceofpeople.com/training/peopl…

If you want to chat with us about joining the course, give us a call! calendar.app.google/MuDSn7wRi5MKBv…

It might feel awkward. Do it anyway. Think the compliment. Say the compliment. One honest compliment this week. That’s the challenge. Report back 👇 If you want to join my monthly live sessions, I would love to have you join us inside People School! My team would also love to talk with you.

@aibytekat Thank you so much for sharing this!

She literally explained How to trigger dopamine in conversation and master small talk:

Your social battery isn’t broken. It’s just context-dependent. Who you’re with, what you’re doing, and where you are matter more than labels like introvert or extrovert. So… what fuels your people energy? 👇

Tbh I think an under explored dynamic in society recently is “being able to read the room has actually gotten more important for success and it made a lot of less socially competent but still otherwise competent people extremely ragey”

This was taught during one of my monthly live workshops in People School. I would love to see you at the next one! Learn more about People School: scienceofpeople.com/training/peopl…

More tips here! scienceofpeople.com/communication-…

Personalities change as we get older. Different expectations. Different communication styles. Same workplace. Which one are you, and which one drives you a little nuts? 👀