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I started building Where’s Dad? after going through child separation myself.
My son was born in early 2024. I have not seen my child in a long time now.
My grandmother passed away without seeing him. She waited for a year. Some relatives are still waiting to see my son’s face.
Sometimes I just hold on to his old photos and newborn clothes.
That pain changes something inside you.
Even after two years, this pain still hurts. Sometimes I fear it may not go away even after two decades.
You slowly realise how helpless this system can make a father feel when he is alive, loving deeply, and still becoming invisible in his own child’s life.
As my son was moved between cities, I stayed in Airbnbs and hotels for months — sometimes almost a quarter — just to be near him, and in return, I got only around 10 hours with him in two years.
There were also police-related situations during this period. However, they were very kind to me.
At this point, I do not want to go into details about the problems and interference created by extended family members since the beginning of the marriage.
People often say:
“Move on.”
“Stay strong.”
“Focus on yourself.”
But nobody really tells you what to do with the love you still carry every single day for your child.
So I started just writing. Words that he may read years later.
I started maintaining my story over time in a feed, so that one day he can read it and know: I never stopped loving him.
Not even for a single day.
Slowly, those words became letters and part of Where’s Dad?
Not as a startup trend. Not as a weekend project.
I have spent the past one and half years building this with one purpose:
To help fathers stay emotionally present for their children, even through distance, separation, or silence.
One app for fathers.
It has a private space where fathers can:
• Write letters so they are preserved for years
• Wish their child well and send blessings
• Have private chat, audio calls, and video calls
• Upload photos with memory notes
And a public space:
• Circle — a feed for your efforts, stories, moments, and journey
• Dad Threads — ask questions, answer other fathers, or just read quietly
• Give Back — connect for private chat, audio, or video discussion based on trust
Because many men are silently breaking while pretending they are okay.
This is for the father who is trying.
Not perfect. Not always near. Not always understood.
But still loving. Still remembering. Still showing up.
We all know there are gaps in our childcare laws and judicial system when it comes to separation and child access.
But I do not want to become bitter.
I want to be part of the solution.
A solution where my son can feel happy someday.
A solution where fathers and children are not forced into lifelong bitterness.
A solution where separated parent can talk about pain without becoming hateful toward other, while still staying kind and finding moments of joy during healing.
If you believe there can be a better way to solve these problems, I would be grateful if you become part of it.
Start here:
whereisdad.co.in
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